In order to reduce communication mishaps when we are visiting my inlaws next month, I have been thinking about what rules I want all adults who take care of her to follow at this point in her development. (particularly biased toward their house.)
- Don't feed her any hard candy. You can feed her absolutely anything else. (*) Be prepared for messiness.
- She must be strapped in for any car ride. I am flexible about how complex the restraint device must be, but she cannot be held on one's lap.
- If you ask her a question you must accept her answer. "Do you want to put on your shoes?" means if she says "no" you don't put on her shoes. If you want/need her to do something regardless, use the imperative, like "It's time to put on your shoes."
- She may not be left alone with the dog at my inlaw's ever. Not even for a minute. (^)
(*) There's an "ask me about bananas" codicil, but I want to keep things simple for my inlaws.
(^) They adopted their dog after she bit kids in her previous family. As far as I know she has no training since then. Even if this weren't the case I think Smiles is at the wrong age to interact with animals politely, so it's not fair to the dog or to her.
I feel like I had a fifth rule,but I can't remember what it was. Use common sense?
How would you rephrase these to be more well-written/easy to understand/polite?
What would you add?