They tell me what to think
The idea that a guy could come between two best friends, two of my best friends, and quite possibly ruin everything is sickening. Granted, he is very cute and a very nice guy and it's not his intention to turn them against one another. He is also a good friend of mine.
Friend one has had a crush on him for months but never made advances. Friend two met him through friend one but kept her distance up until recently.
To make matters worse, my two friends live with each other. Friend one was helping her parents move out of their house last night, so she wasn't home. Friend two had some of us over, including this boy. They ended up sleeping in her bed... though I doubt they did "anything". She likes him and he likes her.
Friend one doesn't know that he spent the night, but knows that friend two and the guy like each other. She is understandably upset, but at the same time she's being rather selfish. She's considering getting back together with her ex-boyfriend who treated her like dirt (at least for the last few months they were dating) but promises that things would be different. She has also being hanging out with a guy who she works with, but is significantly older than her (about 18 years). Then she also claims that she doesn't want to date anyone right now.
I talked to friend two today and she was upset that friend one was mad at her. She asked me for advice, and I wish that people would realize that I suck at giving advice. I'm a listener, and that's about it. Usually when people tell me their problems, they wind up working it out themselves (which is how I function).
I've been in this situation before. I had a crush on this guy for a really long time, and then out of no where he starts dating this one girl. Now she's a very good friend of mine, and doesn't know that I had a thing for her boyfriend - they're so blissfully happy now, it's insane. I was upset, but I moved on when I saw how happy they made each other.
Time after time, I've play the neutral party when two of my friends were fighting. It's what I want to do now, but I'm leaning towards friend two. Friend one has had her chances and if he doesn't like her in that way, then she should just realize it. I would hope that she's mature enough to see that those two are happy together, although I don't want to tell her this.
I want to stay away, but I know I can't.
Friend one has had a crush on him for months but never made advances. Friend two met him through friend one but kept her distance up until recently.
To make matters worse, my two friends live with each other. Friend one was helping her parents move out of their house last night, so she wasn't home. Friend two had some of us over, including this boy. They ended up sleeping in her bed... though I doubt they did "anything". She likes him and he likes her.
Friend one doesn't know that he spent the night, but knows that friend two and the guy like each other. She is understandably upset, but at the same time she's being rather selfish. She's considering getting back together with her ex-boyfriend who treated her like dirt (at least for the last few months they were dating) but promises that things would be different. She has also being hanging out with a guy who she works with, but is significantly older than her (about 18 years). Then she also claims that she doesn't want to date anyone right now.
I talked to friend two today and she was upset that friend one was mad at her. She asked me for advice, and I wish that people would realize that I suck at giving advice. I'm a listener, and that's about it. Usually when people tell me their problems, they wind up working it out themselves (which is how I function).
I've been in this situation before. I had a crush on this guy for a really long time, and then out of no where he starts dating this one girl. Now she's a very good friend of mine, and doesn't know that I had a thing for her boyfriend - they're so blissfully happy now, it's insane. I was upset, but I moved on when I saw how happy they made each other.
Time after time, I've play the neutral party when two of my friends were fighting. It's what I want to do now, but I'm leaning towards friend two. Friend one has had her chances and if he doesn't like her in that way, then she should just realize it. I would hope that she's mature enough to see that those two are happy together, although I don't want to tell her this.
I want to stay away, but I know I can't.