Come on girl, your life does not depend on others
anonymous
November 1 2007, 06:30:31 UTC
Hello there!
I don't know the "myspace" page, but does it not allow you to put people on ignore if you wish so? Because as long as you let Tracy and Jason free access to whatever of your worlds, you give them a path to hurt you further. Beside, why do you go read Tracy's page? You know I am always honest. So once more, I will be very direct now: Why do you keep doing that to yourself? You go through a lot right now. Why do you choose to do things although you know that to do it will add more bad emotions? Damn! Cut off T and J from your life. That will be one dead weight less.
Now regarding Bill: Well, I think that situation is pretty clear now. He is not ready to go back to you now. It hurts. Yes. That cannot be helped.
So stop thinking in circles. Stop observing him and trying to make interpretation out of his behaviour. This is not possible. The only concrete thing is that he is not ready now. OK. This is a given input and you have to handle with that. Do you want to wait for him or not? If yes, like I believe it is the case, there are several ways to wait for someone. One is to put life on hold and cry all the time, as you do now. I think it is clear to you that it is no solution. The other is to accept the situation and the pain that goes with it, and go forward. So try to concentrate on what you have that is good, like your house, your cats, your work, your friends, family, forums, games... In addition to that, make a list of things you have pending and get rid of them one after the other. You know what I did at time I was in this situation? For each pending I had, I had written it on a coloured post-it (exemple: repair lamp in bedroom)and had stick all the post it on the home door. At the begining, the door was covered. And with time going, there were less and less post-it and it was a way to state my own progress and it did a lot good. However, all that is to say: To put your life on hold serves no purpose at all. It does not help you, neither Bill, nor anybody else. Do yourself a favour: Keep your pain aside, because you cannot remove it, but go on. Once you are stronger and feeling better, you will be also better able to handle situation with Bill. Beside, if you let him a bit aside, he will feel less under pressure and it can maybe help him. Because for now, it seems to me that he has a big problem with himself that needs to be solved. And stuck between you and the other, he feels probably trapped. You have told him honestly what you feel and what you want. Now, as hard as it sounds, you cannot do more. You can just go ahead.
Sorry, it is not easy to explain what I mean. Hope it makes sense.
I don't know the "myspace" page, but does it not allow you to put people on ignore if you wish so? Because as long as you let Tracy and Jason free access to whatever of your worlds, you give them a path to hurt you further. Beside, why do you go read Tracy's page? You know I am always honest. So once more, I will be very direct now: Why do you keep doing that to yourself? You go through a lot right now. Why do you choose to do things although you know that to do it will add more bad emotions? Damn! Cut off T and J from your life. That will be one dead weight less.
Now regarding Bill: Well, I think that situation is pretty clear now. He is not ready to go back to you now. It hurts. Yes. That cannot be helped.
So stop thinking in circles. Stop observing him and trying to make interpretation out of his behaviour. This is not possible. The only concrete thing is that he is not ready now. OK.
This is a given input and you have to handle with that. Do you want to wait for him or not? If yes, like I believe it is the case, there are several ways to wait for someone.
One is to put life on hold and cry all the time, as you do now. I think it is clear to you that it is no solution.
The other is to accept the situation and the pain that goes with it, and go forward.
So try to concentrate on what you have that is good, like your house, your cats, your work, your friends, family, forums, games... In addition to that, make a list of things you have pending and get rid of them one after the other. You know what I did at time I was in this situation? For each pending I had, I had written it on a coloured post-it (exemple: repair lamp in bedroom)and had stick all the post it on the home door. At the begining, the door was covered. And with time going, there were less and less post-it and it was a way to state my own progress and it did a lot good.
However, all that is to say: To put your life on hold serves no purpose at all. It does not help you, neither Bill, nor anybody else. Do yourself a favour: Keep your pain aside, because you cannot remove it, but go on. Once you are stronger and feeling better, you will be also better able to handle situation with Bill. Beside, if you let him a bit aside, he will feel less under pressure and it can maybe help him. Because for now, it seems to me that he has a big problem with himself that needs to be solved. And stuck between you and the other, he feels probably trapped. You have told him honestly what you feel and what you want. Now, as hard as it sounds, you cannot do more. You can just go ahead.
Sorry, it is not easy to explain what I mean. Hope it makes sense.
And don't forget you are not alone
Lull
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