Learn to say no!
HI all!
Today i am going to share a really bad online shopping experience, even though i know nobody reads this space of mine. At the very least i have it penned down, and to me its really bad cos i'm kinda affected by it.
So yes, the topic is learn to say no. I've been an avid fan of online shopping and i can purchase an average of three pieces of clothes each week. And as you all know, there are several well-known blogshops that launch at least once a week. Due to me being a UK8/10 and sometimes being in between sizes for certain cutting of clothes, i find it pretty tough for clothes to really fit and look good on you. C'mon, i think thats one of the woes of online shopping, because you can't try it on, you do not know how it'll exactly fits.
So yeap, whenever i can't fit into the clothes that i bought or doesn't look good in it, i'll sell it away on platforms like agnesmaurice, carousell and instagram hashtags# etc. And i can say that i'm one of the most bad luck sellers out there who constantly meet with interested parties who are really rude and demanding. Its like i don't understand why can't you be nice and spare a thought for others instead of haggling your way through and demand for large percentages of discount.
So one day, i posted a listing of a skorts which i couldn't fit on agnesmaurice, and this user by the account name of: Laceyshop (you can simply google her) commented on that listing, asking for trades, despite stating 'No Trades'. By the way, this is not the first time she has shown interest in my item and asked for trades. I strongly believe that, anyone would prefer cash > trades (unless for an item which you really like but the sizing you bought is wrong and would like to swap for another size) anytime. And yes, when i went over to her selling post on livejournal, i too, saw the terms and conditions stating prefer cash over trades. And certain things on her agnesmaurice listing also stated no trades. So, the problem is, why is it that you repeatedly ask for trades when you, still prefer cash over trades? Selfish isn't it?
As i really can't fit into my skorts, i was thinking that i might as well trade for something that i could probably wear instead, and took a another look at her agnesmaurice listings to see which item i can trade my skorts for. Remember i said that this was not the first time she asked for trades? Yup, so i decided to just trade for a littleredheels romper which i kinda liked, and replied to her comment. Subsequently after that comment, i posted a TVD flutter sleeve tunic up for sale on agnesmaurice. I then received a comment asking if she could trade for that tunic instead of the skorts, when once again, it was clearly stated that no trades was allowed. I emailed her saying no, cos i really think its not really 'fair' or 'ethical' to trade for something that was launched a long time again with something that was kinda highly sought after and very recent. Moreover, i really do not particularly like anything from her listing which i would die without :/ actually i could have just rejected the entire transaction at all and not have any dealings with her. But i chose to be nice. So she replied my email, and said
"Hi, am afraid the skorts will be too small for me. Can it fit uk 10? really no trade for the tunic?"
Seriously, the measurements are stated on the listing and i do not see why you can't read, and even repeatedly ask me about the tunic also when i clearly just rejected you. So after i replied by apologising that the tunic is not for trades and that to be honest, i doubt the skorts can fit a UK10. She then emailed me back asking for a playsuit from my listing, and also the hip measurements for both the playsuit and the skorts (measurements are provided on the listing by the way). Up till this point, despite feeling absurd i tolerated with her and provided her with the measurements. She replied:
"Hi, trade the poptart romper with the fashmob lace back romper? Let me know thanks!"
and i replied that it is okay, and asked if we're doing postage or meetups. She then replied:
"Hi, Meetup is good. What about tomorrow at raffles place mrt around 640pm? Anyway, just to check with you, the length for the tvd tunic, 24.5" is inclusive of the strap?"
My reply to her was: "The length of 25" should be inclusive of the strap. Im not too sure about it! Im out, I cant measure, sorry! Btw, raffles is not really very convenient. I live at cck, any other places possible?"
Her reply: Hi, Oh my, we are staying at two end of singapore.
I'm living at Pasir Ris, so i was thinking raffles place would be a better choice cause it's at the central area. Hmm, i will be heading to my grandma's place tomorrow afternoon around at braddell mrt, Would it be better?"
Sorry nope, neither Raffles nor Braddell MRT is convenient for me. Even if i agreed to meet up with her at Raffles MRT, her timing of 640PM is not suitable as well. Up till this point, i was already rather upset with her and honestly feel that she is so selfish. First, you were the one who approached me for trades. Shouldn't the meeting place and time to meet be to my convenience instead of yours? So nevermind, i replied her saying that my boyfriend lives in the east, and that i could meet her if i'm heading over the next day or during the weekends.
She replied: Oh! Weekends, I will be at Changi City Point in the morning till, and then i will be at changi resort for a birthday party, will be home till late, i'm afraid! :(
Argh. This is honestly rather frustrating because i do not want to travel all the way to the east just for a meetup, and secondly, even if i did go to the east, your timing does not suit mine too. So i emailed her asking if she would like to consider purchasing the TVD tunic which she asked about just now, and i would provide FREE registered postage for her together with the romper that we are trading.
She replied: Yea, what about next week? Actually, i'm considering about getting the tunic, but i saw reviews saying that the strap might be too long for a uk8 as it is not adjustable. So i'm considering still! And i would prefer meetup for now during this festive season, scare the parcel might get delay! :( hahaha, where will you be tomorrow?"
My reply: No problem babe! Take your time. Cos ive got school tmrw and maybe going ikea after school or might have other plans! But my backup plan if im unable to meet you will always be my bf cos he lives nearer! Why not I contact you again tmrw? Oh by the way, your timing for meetups is usually after 630?
Her reply: "Hi, Yes, okay sure. I'm working at tampines ending work at 6PM!
Nonetheless, here's my schedule for next week. Monday, Wed, Friday - I'm ending work at 3PM, so i can make it to tampines mrt at about 315pm. Raffles Place or Tanjong Pagar Mrt around 645pm, so i'm having lessons on Wed and Friday. Tuesday and Thursday will be Tampines Mrt at 615pm after my work. Let me know which timing is okay for you? haha. Just to confirm that we are trading the fashmob lace romance playsuit in white size m with the littleredheels poptart romper in yellow size m. Can i check on the condition of the playsuit?"
To be honest, none of the timing and location is good. To add on to the annoyance, she asked about the condition of the playsuit when, IT IS CLEARLY STATED THAT ITS BRAND NEW WITH TAG. Okay, i understand that there could be flaws even though its brand new with tag, and that you're probably just making sure. And also do note that till now, 20+ emails exchanged, i have not asked her about her item which i was going to trade for, and neither did she have the intention to tell me. Neither, do her listing have much information about it. Proves how 'honest' you actually are.
So after a couple of emails exchanged, she emailed me telling me that she will be at Serangoon mrt this coming monday at 5PM. Once again, no no no no no. Your location and timing sucks. But I actually made plans to head down to tampines on monday to meetup with her, even though i have no business in the east and its damn far for me.
To that email, i replied:
" I was thinking, tomorrow I will be heading to eunos. You'll be at some chalet at changi right? Maybe I could meet you around there. Otherwise will be monday, maybe tampines or something. To be honest all the locations you've stated is really out of the way and im kinda forcing myself to travel so far :("
The next email, she blatantly ignore my last sentence and replied "Okay sure, so we shall stick to Monday Tampines 315PM?"
Selfish, selfish, selfish. Honestly i should have said no to her right from the beginning? Why am i so tolerant and nice towards this person who practically have no respect and does not spare a thought for others. So you think i do not have classes to attend and i do not have any part time job? And till now, she still did not initiate to tell me about the condition of her romper that i am trading for.
Gah, i feel so angry, upset and stupid at the same time and honestly why do such people exist!? And no, she did not purchase the tunic in the end. What else can i do now but to blame myself for being stupid and not having the ability to say no?
Today i am going to share a really bad online shopping experience, even though i know nobody reads this space of mine. At the very least i have it penned down, and to me its really bad cos i'm kinda affected by it.
So yes, the topic is learn to say no. I've been an avid fan of online shopping and i can purchase an average of three pieces of clothes each week. And as you all know, there are several well-known blogshops that launch at least once a week. Due to me being a UK8/10 and sometimes being in between sizes for certain cutting of clothes, i find it pretty tough for clothes to really fit and look good on you. C'mon, i think thats one of the woes of online shopping, because you can't try it on, you do not know how it'll exactly fits.
So yeap, whenever i can't fit into the clothes that i bought or doesn't look good in it, i'll sell it away on platforms like agnesmaurice, carousell and instagram hashtags# etc. And i can say that i'm one of the most bad luck sellers out there who constantly meet with interested parties who are really rude and demanding. Its like i don't understand why can't you be nice and spare a thought for others instead of haggling your way through and demand for large percentages of discount.
So one day, i posted a listing of a skorts which i couldn't fit on agnesmaurice, and this user by the account name of: Laceyshop (you can simply google her) commented on that listing, asking for trades, despite stating 'No Trades'. By the way, this is not the first time she has shown interest in my item and asked for trades. I strongly believe that, anyone would prefer cash > trades (unless for an item which you really like but the sizing you bought is wrong and would like to swap for another size) anytime. And yes, when i went over to her selling post on livejournal, i too, saw the terms and conditions stating prefer cash over trades. And certain things on her agnesmaurice listing also stated no trades. So, the problem is, why is it that you repeatedly ask for trades when you, still prefer cash over trades? Selfish isn't it?
As i really can't fit into my skorts, i was thinking that i might as well trade for something that i could probably wear instead, and took a another look at her agnesmaurice listings to see which item i can trade my skorts for. Remember i said that this was not the first time she asked for trades? Yup, so i decided to just trade for a littleredheels romper which i kinda liked, and replied to her comment. Subsequently after that comment, i posted a TVD flutter sleeve tunic up for sale on agnesmaurice. I then received a comment asking if she could trade for that tunic instead of the skorts, when once again, it was clearly stated that no trades was allowed. I emailed her saying no, cos i really think its not really 'fair' or 'ethical' to trade for something that was launched a long time again with something that was kinda highly sought after and very recent. Moreover, i really do not particularly like anything from her listing which i would die without :/ actually i could have just rejected the entire transaction at all and not have any dealings with her. But i chose to be nice. So she replied my email, and said
"Hi, am afraid the skorts will be too small for me. Can it fit uk 10? really no trade for the tunic?"
Seriously, the measurements are stated on the listing and i do not see why you can't read, and even repeatedly ask me about the tunic also when i clearly just rejected you. So after i replied by apologising that the tunic is not for trades and that to be honest, i doubt the skorts can fit a UK10. She then emailed me back asking for a playsuit from my listing, and also the hip measurements for both the playsuit and the skorts (measurements are provided on the listing by the way). Up till this point, despite feeling absurd i tolerated with her and provided her with the measurements. She replied:
"Hi, trade the poptart romper with the fashmob lace back romper? Let me know thanks!"
and i replied that it is okay, and asked if we're doing postage or meetups. She then replied:
"Hi, Meetup is good. What about tomorrow at raffles place mrt around 640pm? Anyway, just to check with you, the length for the tvd tunic, 24.5" is inclusive of the strap?"
My reply to her was: "The length of 25" should be inclusive of the strap. Im not too sure about it! Im out, I cant measure, sorry! Btw, raffles is not really very convenient. I live at cck, any other places possible?"
Her reply: Hi, Oh my, we are staying at two end of singapore.
I'm living at Pasir Ris, so i was thinking raffles place would be a better choice cause it's at the central area. Hmm, i will be heading to my grandma's place tomorrow afternoon around at braddell mrt, Would it be better?"
Sorry nope, neither Raffles nor Braddell MRT is convenient for me. Even if i agreed to meet up with her at Raffles MRT, her timing of 640PM is not suitable as well. Up till this point, i was already rather upset with her and honestly feel that she is so selfish. First, you were the one who approached me for trades. Shouldn't the meeting place and time to meet be to my convenience instead of yours? So nevermind, i replied her saying that my boyfriend lives in the east, and that i could meet her if i'm heading over the next day or during the weekends.
She replied: Oh! Weekends, I will be at Changi City Point in the morning till, and then i will be at changi resort for a birthday party, will be home till late, i'm afraid! :(
Argh. This is honestly rather frustrating because i do not want to travel all the way to the east just for a meetup, and secondly, even if i did go to the east, your timing does not suit mine too. So i emailed her asking if she would like to consider purchasing the TVD tunic which she asked about just now, and i would provide FREE registered postage for her together with the romper that we are trading.
She replied: Yea, what about next week? Actually, i'm considering about getting the tunic, but i saw reviews saying that the strap might be too long for a uk8 as it is not adjustable. So i'm considering still! And i would prefer meetup for now during this festive season, scare the parcel might get delay! :( hahaha, where will you be tomorrow?"
My reply: No problem babe! Take your time. Cos ive got school tmrw and maybe going ikea after school or might have other plans! But my backup plan if im unable to meet you will always be my bf cos he lives nearer! Why not I contact you again tmrw? Oh by the way, your timing for meetups is usually after 630?
Her reply: "Hi, Yes, okay sure. I'm working at tampines ending work at 6PM!
Nonetheless, here's my schedule for next week. Monday, Wed, Friday - I'm ending work at 3PM, so i can make it to tampines mrt at about 315pm. Raffles Place or Tanjong Pagar Mrt around 645pm, so i'm having lessons on Wed and Friday. Tuesday and Thursday will be Tampines Mrt at 615pm after my work. Let me know which timing is okay for you? haha. Just to confirm that we are trading the fashmob lace romance playsuit in white size m with the littleredheels poptart romper in yellow size m. Can i check on the condition of the playsuit?"
To be honest, none of the timing and location is good. To add on to the annoyance, she asked about the condition of the playsuit when, IT IS CLEARLY STATED THAT ITS BRAND NEW WITH TAG. Okay, i understand that there could be flaws even though its brand new with tag, and that you're probably just making sure. And also do note that till now, 20+ emails exchanged, i have not asked her about her item which i was going to trade for, and neither did she have the intention to tell me. Neither, do her listing have much information about it. Proves how 'honest' you actually are.
So after a couple of emails exchanged, she emailed me telling me that she will be at Serangoon mrt this coming monday at 5PM. Once again, no no no no no. Your location and timing sucks. But I actually made plans to head down to tampines on monday to meetup with her, even though i have no business in the east and its damn far for me.
To that email, i replied:
" I was thinking, tomorrow I will be heading to eunos. You'll be at some chalet at changi right? Maybe I could meet you around there. Otherwise will be monday, maybe tampines or something. To be honest all the locations you've stated is really out of the way and im kinda forcing myself to travel so far :("
The next email, she blatantly ignore my last sentence and replied "Okay sure, so we shall stick to Monday Tampines 315PM?"
Selfish, selfish, selfish. Honestly i should have said no to her right from the beginning? Why am i so tolerant and nice towards this person who practically have no respect and does not spare a thought for others. So you think i do not have classes to attend and i do not have any part time job? And till now, she still did not initiate to tell me about the condition of her romper that i am trading for.
Gah, i feel so angry, upset and stupid at the same time and honestly why do such people exist!? And no, she did not purchase the tunic in the end. What else can i do now but to blame myself for being stupid and not having the ability to say no?