cross post
I have a quick question for you. I have been at this current job for about 2 years and am one of the executives in the company. I don't make a big deal to point out my sexual preference, though I don't hide it either. I have a picture of me and my boyfriend sitting right on my desk; I even invited him to my company picnic. I didn't introduce him as my boyfriend, I just said "I'd like you to meet Jason," and let them assume whatever they wanted. Anyway, that is just a little backstory to help you answer this question. Since I have been here for almost two years, I have heard coworkers using the words "gay" and "faggot" in derogatory way at work. They will describe something as "really gay," or something is "really fagoty." I was walking down the hall and happened to hear my COO say, "What is he a fagot?" to someone on the phone. (very loudly, i wasn't eavesdropping) This sort of shit has been happening over and over again. I am wondering what the best course of action is. I don't know what the laws are in California but I am presuming that this is probably not appropriate for the workplace. Would you guys (a) do nothing, (b) write a letter to the HR director informing her of the general problem (not naming names), (c) just deal with each instance as it occurs directly with the person, telling them that it is insulting to hear that word as an adjective, (d) carry a tape recorder in your pocket and then call a lawyer, oe (e) none of the above. It is really aggravating me, but I don't want to jump off the deep end and call attention to myself. Your comments are appreciated.