another meaningful thingy..
I find this is very meaningful...do spend some time to read it....it helps!!
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way u
react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of
what happens to you. 90% is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop
the car from breaking down; the plane being late in arriving, which throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no
control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other
90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but YOU can
control how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down
in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle
follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you
find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get
ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately
for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because
you are late, you drive 110 km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit. After a
15-minute delay and throwing $300 & some demerit points (traffic fine)
away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without
saying goodbye. You arrive at the office 20 minutes late, because of how
you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is obviously D. You had no control over what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened....
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before
you go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the
difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different. Why? Because of how you REACTED . You really do not have any
control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your
reaction. Here are some ways to apply t! he 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel and hurt your own fingers? Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure rocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES
if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The
plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take
out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what
is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.. You will lose
nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. It seems simple common-sense but very
few apply this principle! The result? Millions of people are suffering from
undeserved stress, court trials, problems and heartaches. They never seem
to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to
be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken
relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems
dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore
and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be
discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10
principle. It will change your life!
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way u
react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of
what happens to you. 90% is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop
the car from breaking down; the plane being late in arriving, which throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no
control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other
90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but YOU can
control how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down
in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle
follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you
find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get
ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately
for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because
you are late, you drive 110 km/h in a 80 km/h speed limit. After a
15-minute delay and throwing $300 & some demerit points (traffic fine)
away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without
saying goodbye. You arrive at the office 20 minutes late, because of how
you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is obviously D. You had no control over what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened....
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before
you go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the
difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different. Why? Because of how you REACTED . You really do not have any
control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your
reaction. Here are some ways to apply t! he 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel and hurt your own fingers? Do you
curse? Does your blood pressure rocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES
if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The
plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take
out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what
is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.. You will lose
nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. It seems simple common-sense but very
few apply this principle! The result? Millions of people are suffering from
undeserved stress, court trials, problems and heartaches. They never seem
to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to
be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken
relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems
dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore
and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be
discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10
principle. It will change your life!