Wedding = 8 weeks away
Well the wedding is nearing and my mom is killing me!
I've heard this before from others, but my usual complaint with my mother is that she doesn't want to help or be involved, she just wants me to leave her alone.
This was the case until this past week. Now she wants to be retroactively involved, and not only that, but it was MY FAULT!!
Yes, I didn't put her and her husband's name on the invites, and I am treating the wedding like it is my day. I also would like to add that I have not been bridezilla ONCE (even though it seems like I'm being bridezilla, please understand this is my journal for venting purposes) since we got engaged, but I have been hyper motivated and excited to get things going right!
I am always willing to take suggestions, but I rarely ask anyone for help on anything. That is not my nature. I think another thing thats really frustrating is that I have Andrew's parents saying, "whatever you want, its your day!" and my Dad and stepmom say the same, but my mother all of a sudden wants to have been more involved. Ridiculous.
Let me rewind.
Back when Andrew and I got engaged, I asked my mom to do one simple task and that was to pick out a photographer. She could pick anyone she wants, and build a relationship with the photographer, so that she would have it perfectly chosen. Instead, she procrastinated until the last minute, so Andrew's mom and I went and picked one out. Our DJ was obviously going to be the one my brother worked for, but there were other vendors we could choose- such as flowers, the reception hall, etc. etc.
Never did she step in and say, "I would like to make the choice because I am paying for this".
I also would like to point out that I have never been married before, so I am lacking in the proper wedding etiquette, but I am pretty sure that if I wanted something special in my child's wedding, I would communicate that to them ahead of time. I also would lay down some ground rules before any choosing began just be sure all parties come to an understanding.
That brings me to my next point, I am just frustrated by her lack of communication in general. Its really frustrating when all of a sudden she explodes on me for no reason because she's been holding in feelings for months.
And now, I am hating her husband more than ever. I just hate how they "help" us, by giving us things with strings attached. I wish I could just pay them to leave us alone. I am so over dealing with them.
On the bright side, things between Andrew and I are awesome. I am have been reading a book called the Seven Steps to a Healthy Marriage and I love it. I quote it way too often and I pretty much love that its \common sense. I have a feeling that most people out there who have bad relationships probably are just not with the right people. You can be a great person, but with the wrong person, you are not so great.
Things seem to be running pretty smoothly here on the wedding planning side. Thankfully Andrew's mom has been tons of help (she's been more like the mother of the bride) and I know that it will turn out beautifully. Most things are in order, just a few more things to buy and finalize.
I can't WAIT!!!
Take it easy team.
- K
I've heard this before from others, but my usual complaint with my mother is that she doesn't want to help or be involved, she just wants me to leave her alone.
This was the case until this past week. Now she wants to be retroactively involved, and not only that, but it was MY FAULT!!
Yes, I didn't put her and her husband's name on the invites, and I am treating the wedding like it is my day. I also would like to add that I have not been bridezilla ONCE (even though it seems like I'm being bridezilla, please understand this is my journal for venting purposes) since we got engaged, but I have been hyper motivated and excited to get things going right!
I am always willing to take suggestions, but I rarely ask anyone for help on anything. That is not my nature. I think another thing thats really frustrating is that I have Andrew's parents saying, "whatever you want, its your day!" and my Dad and stepmom say the same, but my mother all of a sudden wants to have been more involved. Ridiculous.
Let me rewind.
Back when Andrew and I got engaged, I asked my mom to do one simple task and that was to pick out a photographer. She could pick anyone she wants, and build a relationship with the photographer, so that she would have it perfectly chosen. Instead, she procrastinated until the last minute, so Andrew's mom and I went and picked one out. Our DJ was obviously going to be the one my brother worked for, but there were other vendors we could choose- such as flowers, the reception hall, etc. etc.
Never did she step in and say, "I would like to make the choice because I am paying for this".
I also would like to point out that I have never been married before, so I am lacking in the proper wedding etiquette, but I am pretty sure that if I wanted something special in my child's wedding, I would communicate that to them ahead of time. I also would lay down some ground rules before any choosing began just be sure all parties come to an understanding.
That brings me to my next point, I am just frustrated by her lack of communication in general. Its really frustrating when all of a sudden she explodes on me for no reason because she's been holding in feelings for months.
And now, I am hating her husband more than ever. I just hate how they "help" us, by giving us things with strings attached. I wish I could just pay them to leave us alone. I am so over dealing with them.
On the bright side, things between Andrew and I are awesome. I am have been reading a book called the Seven Steps to a Healthy Marriage and I love it. I quote it way too often and I pretty much love that its \common sense. I have a feeling that most people out there who have bad relationships probably are just not with the right people. You can be a great person, but with the wrong person, you are not so great.
Things seem to be running pretty smoothly here on the wedding planning side. Thankfully Andrew's mom has been tons of help (she's been more like the mother of the bride) and I know that it will turn out beautifully. Most things are in order, just a few more things to buy and finalize.
I can't WAIT!!!
Take it easy team.
- K