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I am constantly hearing of some new study that shows just how much you're messing up your kid. If they watch television, they'll lack a desire to be active. If you let them eat candy, they'll use sugary foods as a crutch in their life. If you spank them, they'll be abusive. If you don't spank them, they'll never learn. There's always a study to contradict the other study. What I've learned is that there is no manual. No two kids are the same, so there isn't one way of doing things that's right.
The biggest thing that's come up recently is birthday parties. There's a new show about outrageous kid's parties. These are the kind where they drop $40,000 on their 6 year old's party and buy them a car, despite the fact that they can't drive (true story on the new show). Do I think that's excessive? Yes. Do I think that kid's scarred for life? Not necessarily. My mom had parents who were alcoholics and would rather party than be a parent. She learned what she didn't want to be. I know that's not always the case, but I'm sure there's a study that says if you're an alocholic parent, your kids are ___% more likely to be an alcoholic.
I just don't understand, why we as parents, can't just encourage one another rather than pointing out this study to say, "you're making a mistake." I think we'd get much farther.
The biggest thing that's come up recently is birthday parties. There's a new show about outrageous kid's parties. These are the kind where they drop $40,000 on their 6 year old's party and buy them a car, despite the fact that they can't drive (true story on the new show). Do I think that's excessive? Yes. Do I think that kid's scarred for life? Not necessarily. My mom had parents who were alcoholics and would rather party than be a parent. She learned what she didn't want to be. I know that's not always the case, but I'm sure there's a study that says if you're an alocholic parent, your kids are ___% more likely to be an alcoholic.
I just don't understand, why we as parents, can't just encourage one another rather than pointing out this study to say, "you're making a mistake." I think we'd get much farther.