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chandrahasa

Understanding Friends...

Feb 28, 2009 23:43

A couple of days back while discussing with my friends we hit upon an interesting subject. The point of focus was one of us and the argument was mostly directed at the person. The gist of the idea was what struck me the most. The premise was that most of my friends shared their ideas, problems and daily events to one of my friends who is an ( Read more... )

friends, expectations, life, conversations, lessons, relationships

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anonymous February 28 2009, 19:54:07 UTC

I have no clue why I read this blog in particular. But I connect to it a great deal. According to me there are two categories of people: One's forever the 'listeners' and the other is the 'expressors' if I may call them so. It all depends on our 'modus operandi' to gain clarity! The former category needs a sounding board (and there's nothing wrong with that!). They need to feed on the opinion of someone they 'connect' with. They trust their listeners enough to seek their opinion. Whether they act accordingly or not is a different story ( ... )

ebony_nivory March 1 2009, 09:10:59 UTC

Thanks :) your comment along with Haas's post give me a new perspective to think about, My transitions lay along the above two concepts.

anonymous February 28 2009, 19:59:25 UTC

Oh by the way i'm the one who wrote the previous comment and am your friend! Let's leave it at that.

chandrahasa March 2 2009, 04:20:17 UTC

Hmmm... Why do you choose to remain anonymous? :)

:) anonymous February 28 2009, 20:39:00 UTC

When your close friends never confide in you,and when the sharing is all one sided,you can never be too close.I mean you can still be friends,but there will always be something missing.I have been at both ends,sometimes being just the "listener" with some and vice versa.And its only when the sharing's mutual that the closeness increases.Nevertheless,when it comes to people and relationships each case is different,so maybe you can be "good friends" without the other person opening up!

Rashmi

sdeepthi March 2 2009, 05:29:24 UTC

Somehow i have seen it happen with myself too. When you are a good listener for some friend, you tend to just be a listener there and not much sharing, even though you are a close friend. You tend to choose some other listener to share your things with!!! strange but truee..

manish_murarka March 2 2009, 18:13:04 UTC

hey... ur one line really caught my attention and made me think - "The kind of relationship we want and the kind of relationship we have".
Really awesome :)