Jun 20, 2011 12:37
"Let's use the example of friendship and how removing the element of life from a noun can drastically alter a relationship. Mack, if you and I were friends, there is an expectancy that exists within our relationship. When we see each other or are apart, there is an expectancy of being together, of laughing and talking. That expectancy has no concrete definition; it is alive and dynamic and everything that emerges from our being together is unique gift shared by no one else. But, what happens if I change that expectancy to an expectation - spoken or unspoken? Suddenly, law has entered into our relationship. You are now expected to perform in a way that meets my expectations. Our living friendship rapidly deteriorates into a dead thing with rules and requirements. It is no longer about you and me, but about what friends are supposed to do, or the responsibilities of a good friend."
paul young "the shack"