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By someone who was paralyzed and lost everything but built it all back up tenfold. A simple youtube commenter going by the name Blaze High. Someone else in the thread asked how she did it, and she said some simple honest things about not giving up, working hard to build strength back, having to be creative in building a different business now, but ( Read more... )
I watch inspirational stuff like this to help come back from family interactions here and find my grounding and footing forward again. Sometimes to just get rebuilt back up. But, I'm always paying attention to what makes people succeed in life and happiness. And I liked some of what they said in this clip. If I told my family anything, they would tear it apart and they don't even mean to BE cruel. Some of the only times I feel they respect me are when I out of the blue know something profound. If were to ever reveal how I know that, they would go back to mocking. But keeping the work a silence to them and shocking them with the results I gain in myself and knowledge IS the only way to gain their respect. That is HARD for someone like me who wants to be authentic, open, and genuine. I've tried hard to be that way after moving out, so to move back in is throwing me for a loop.
Anyway! Thanks for commenting and sharing the story of your friend. I didn't mean to write you a letter in reply! :)
Best of wishes for a lovely weekend ahead for you and yours!
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If you've got people in your immediate orbit who tear your ideas down, keeping quiet about things until they're ready makes sense. No need to give them any fuel.
I hope you can find people who will support you and who you can bounce ideas off of when you need inspiration or a reality check. If not nearby, then that's what we're all here for, cf2princessawnw!
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where I get in trouble is in general feeling unwilling to make mistakes and uncertainty that what I want can succeed.
i always wonder at those ppl who are so CERTAIN about what they set out to do. How do you get that way??? Because when you have the certainty the haters stop mattering.
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When I decided I would not eat meat, it came from a place of utter conviction, but I made a decision not to be antagonizing to others. I still want all of these people in my life, so I try not to be angry about their choices, or to come across as righteous.
When we find that iron will to choose a path, I think it has to be like my choice to be a vegetarian; personal and meaningful. It can't come from a place of wanting to please others, it has to come from a place where it feels like there is no other choice. I felt that I could not authentically be myself if I did not become a vegetarian.
I think this is why I DO fail at keeping my house clean. A certain level of clean is enough for me, and more than that is because I think I SHOULD be better, but really that is because of other people. That's why I don't achieve ongoing cleanliness and order. I don't really care. My authentic self wants to create art, have animals, garden, be outside, and so on. My authentic self only cares about a certain level of clean and order, and anything above that it more a feeling of unworthiness because of societal expectations. I have a love/hate relationship with beautiful clean homes, because I know I don't have the desire to achieve that look, even as I admire it in other people's homes. What I really need to do, is to stop feeling bad for not being more tidy, and to embrace my authenticity.
So, this is the core to that iron will to succeed; is it authentic? Does it come from a deep conviction that this is really you, and really what you want, not some bullshit vision of success that we think is real? After all, a person who decides to leave a million dollar a year job so they can hike around the world is a person with a successful vision of authenticity, and that is a person who must ignore the haters and do what is true to themselves. I think when people want something like this, it becomes a case of feeling like they MUST do this, or forever live with regret and frustration.
So, first, you have to figure out whether or not anything truly compels you in this way. If you have that feeling, it's a lot easier to ignore the fear of mistakes, or failure (because you can't fail if you keep working toward your goal), or what other people have to say.
I don't have many people who will be haters to a vegetarian to their face; they will just say "I love meat too much to give it up", but that doesn't get to me, because that's not about me, is it? It's about them. It was like that for me as a teen, too, who didn't want to drink. I did have people who tried to get me to drink, but they can't force me to drink alcohol. What are they going to do, hold me down and pour it down my throat? Their choice to drink is not about me, it's about them. You just reach a point where other people's objections don't matter, because the problems they raise are THEIR problems, not yours. Your issues become about how you will achieve your goal, and not about what other people say about it. Your goal might be tough, but probably other people have done it. You might have to work hard, or give something up, or lose a few friends, or change how your day works, maybe even move or live in a very different way. Maybe almost everything will be different by the time you're done. You just have to be willing to keep shifting things until you're there.
You'll do it, or at least always be moving toward it, if you think this way.
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re your other pt it's hard for me because i change my mind so much. Like nothing really sticks. My emotions and convictions change and cycle so frequently and violently that I have no real srtrong basis for/with which to do anything
this is aprt of some larger 'mental health' entries I was going to make but that's the main issue for me
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