Confused a bit..
When I was in Midwifery class, Elizabeth said not to work with someone if you had any doubts. What if it is a friend that you are having doubts about working with? I am really concerned because my friend wants me to be her doula but it seems like everything I am telling her just isn't connecting. She has absolutely no faith in herself and just assumes that things like having an epidural or induction are how you have your baby. I keep trying to educate her a little bit about how you don't necessarily need that stuff and she just responds like yeah right like I'll be able to take that pain. I mean if you want my help the least you could do is listen. I gave her 2 pregnancy books to read that are unbiased, and purely informational, but I don't even know if she is reading them.
The worst thing I have ever heard come out of her mouth is "Well I am just going to have to get use to the fact that I am going to be violated the whole time" When is feeling like that something you just need to get use to? And more importantly do all women that go to see their doctors feel this way? What is the world coming to if women think having a baby includes being violated? And since when is this ok to just accept? If you are uncomfortable with the doctor is doing speak the hell up!! I have this birth video about waterbirth and the natural beautiful process that a woman goes through. She was so amazed that the women in the video gave birth pretty much by themselves and that they didn't need a doctor and that they just did it. I looked at her and said well.. doctors have only been around for childbirth for about a hundred years now, and women have been giving birth for thousands. It's not like our bodies have forgotten how to do it. Just because something goes wrong 2% of the time doesn't mean you need all this crap in your pregnancy all the time. How do you talk against all this cultural programming without losing the woman's interest? Midwives struggle with the fact that the common person's view of birth is sooo warped that it takes a huge effort and careful planning to restore it. How do I do it on my first try? I have to admit that it is great experience trying to restore an image without trampling everything and finding a happy medium but it is just so damn frustrating to me when I feel like it is falling on deaf ears.
The worst thing I have ever heard come out of her mouth is "Well I am just going to have to get use to the fact that I am going to be violated the whole time" When is feeling like that something you just need to get use to? And more importantly do all women that go to see their doctors feel this way? What is the world coming to if women think having a baby includes being violated? And since when is this ok to just accept? If you are uncomfortable with the doctor is doing speak the hell up!! I have this birth video about waterbirth and the natural beautiful process that a woman goes through. She was so amazed that the women in the video gave birth pretty much by themselves and that they didn't need a doctor and that they just did it. I looked at her and said well.. doctors have only been around for childbirth for about a hundred years now, and women have been giving birth for thousands. It's not like our bodies have forgotten how to do it. Just because something goes wrong 2% of the time doesn't mean you need all this crap in your pregnancy all the time. How do you talk against all this cultural programming without losing the woman's interest? Midwives struggle with the fact that the common person's view of birth is sooo warped that it takes a huge effort and careful planning to restore it. How do I do it on my first try? I have to admit that it is great experience trying to restore an image without trampling everything and finding a happy medium but it is just so damn frustrating to me when I feel like it is falling on deaf ears.