Death to note.

May 05, 2021 21:13


I know I'm hardly on here at all these days, but I need to rebuke myself for not noting the passing of my stepfather in February. It was not Covid related... he made it through all that without getting infected.. He had congestive heart failure and it was pretty much one thing led to another starting in early Dec. He fell, hurt his had badly but did not go to the Dr. Later that week he fell again and broke his femer.. that led to a week in the hospital and some days in rehab, but he was unwilling to work at getting better so they just sent him home.. which led to another fall and later that day a ride back to the hospital after being suicidal. Its hard to remember the order of thigns.. From the hospital he seemed to be getting better and I think he went home after they got him straitened out again (apparently he had a raging infection that was affecting his thinking and causing him pain). He only lasted at home a short bit after that, he asked to go to the hospital because he was delerious. That was the last time he was home. From the hospital he was sent to a re-hab and was there less than 24 hours before being sent back to the hospital where he died. And while Covid didn't kill him, one wonders how much the inability of my mom to even be there to talk to a doctor affected his care.  He died Feb 26.  My mother was so stressed from trying to take care of him when he was home, especialy the last time.. that it was a relief for her that he passed. And probably a relief for him too at that point, given all his medical ills (parkinson's dagnosis, bladder cancer in the recent past, heart disease.... ) His quality of life had gone down dramatically and was not likely to be getting better.

He was cremated, and he'll be buried in the Veterans cemetery, where he has family. My mom is planning on moving back to MA with me, she will be living with my brother in the house my father left me. Ironic that her ex husband's home will be hers. It's also up the street from where she grew up. Full circle if we can get her back here. First we have to get work done on the kitchen and bathroom to make it usable again.. it's so out run down and out of date that it just has to be done first. And she has to sell her house too, which shouldn't be a problem.  Just hoping nothign happens to her until then.. she's 81 and alread had one stroke...

Oh, and her brother, my uncle is now in a rehab and may not come out.. he's 83. And I'm suposed to be handling his estate when anything happens, but his granddaughter seems determined to keep me out of the loop... ug.

Anyway, thats it for the moment.

sickness, death, family

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