Tedx Talks - Leslie Morgan Steiner - Why domestic violence victims don't leave I'll write about this in a bit - but I want to keep this link so I can write about it, without forgetting it.
The important parts of this is - the nature of abuse
a. Choose
b. Isolate
c. Denigrate
And how this can be emotional abuse on the internet between people who you'd think would be able to realise what's happening because they're intelligent folk.