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"They say a clean cut heals soonest. There is nothing sadder to me than associations held together by nothing but the glue of postage stamps. If you can't see or hear or touch a man, it's best to let him go." --East of Eden by John Steinbeck
I agree with this statement, but only for certain relationships. Namely where boys are involved. A clean break is best. With a goodbye. A definitive ending. It's best not to linger; it tends to only exacerbate the feelings of loneliness and withdrawal. The reinforcement of the idea that you will indeed die alone. However, a clean break is a decisive action, not the malingering of a weak soul. And in creating clean breaks and closing one door another one is supposed to open. And I think that when we are actually strong enough to walk away we will find something new and different and therefore in its own way better. The hardest part then is to let go. To say enough and mean it. Instead I tend to hope against hope that my finality is the finality of the movies. That tomorrow will bring forth a new meeting and a new outlook. While hope is a good thing, hoping for the wrong thing or someone is a futile exercise that leads only to cynicism and the abandonment of hope.
The key thing is to know who and when you should abandon someone or the idea of someone. And while in failed romance this is key, I think in true friendships there is something stronger than the glue of postage stamps. Our love for each other is enough to surmount any distance. Our friendships are not only self-sustaining, though we may not talk as often as we would like, as we should, or as we promise, they also help to keep us going. We are never alone. We have each other. We do see, hear, and touch. Even if we haven't spoken in months, we have background, priviledged information garnered over years of closeness that bridges, surmount any gaps of time or space. This is the beauty of friendship.
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I agree with this statement, but only for certain relationships. Namely where boys are involved. A clean break is best. With a goodbye. A definitive ending. It's best not to linger; it tends to only exacerbate the feelings of loneliness and withdrawal. The reinforcement of the idea that you will indeed die alone. However, a clean break is a decisive action, not the malingering of a weak soul. And in creating clean breaks and closing one door another one is supposed to open. And I think that when we are actually strong enough to walk away we will find something new and different and therefore in its own way better. The hardest part then is to let go. To say enough and mean it. Instead I tend to hope against hope that my finality is the finality of the movies. That tomorrow will bring forth a new meeting and a new outlook. While hope is a good thing, hoping for the wrong thing or someone is a futile exercise that leads only to cynicism and the abandonment of hope.
The key thing is to know who and when you should abandon someone or the idea of someone. And while in failed romance this is key, I think in true friendships there is something stronger than the glue of postage stamps. Our love for each other is enough to surmount any distance. Our friendships are not only self-sustaining, though we may not talk as often as we would like, as we should, or as we promise, they also help to keep us going. We are never alone. We have each other. We do see, hear, and touch. Even if we haven't spoken in months, we have background, priviledged information garnered over years of closeness that bridges, surmount any gaps of time or space. This is the beauty of friendship.
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