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[cecitaryn]

Okay.
Was randomly surfing, stumbled onto this on someone's xanga:

"lmao...haha, im sry ya its true we asian women just want us a non asian guy sry. there is something about dating an asian guy that just does not attract me. if both of you liked the same things, are same nationalities, & smart..its like dating your brother...ew. but asian guys are

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[anonymous]

hmm. . .of my female asian friends who prefer guys of another race. . .it seems like they can't view asian guys as anything but familial because they are so used to being directed to consider all males their age as "brothers." the same goes for girls being their "sisters." part of it comes from little things like the asian tendency to address males as younger or older "brothers."
. . .i know i'd feel weird calling a guy i'm interested in "brother. . ."
and then, there's the whole tight-knit community thing. any minority group tends to develop very closely connected social spheres. big, busy families related by blood, only distantly, and by culture. some ppl are more sensitive to the "family" atmosphere than others, and some have been exposed to more familial divisions of minority groups than others. and then, sometimes adults will work towards desexualizing these boys early on, and that leads to a total desexualization in the long-run. like my korean friend who had very protective, conservative parents. they totally desexualized all of the korean guys she knew her whole life, until now. but now, it's too late, and she can't see them sexually at all. and if she can even acknowledge their sexuality, it's nowhere near anything like attraction.

and sometimes there's too much cultural baggage they don't want to deal with. because there are game rules to dating, and those rules change depending on who you're dating. and some girls just don't want to deal with the rules that apply to guys of the same background--- whether it be a matter of race, wealth, whatever. and by rules i don't mean "rules" literally. . but also things like. . .well, actions have meanings, and they don't like what it would mean for them to date a guy of the same ethnicity. like, i have one friend who won't date fellow african-americans because she doesn't want to follow what her culture dictates to her. so then, the guys are sort of symbols of her cultural identity, and she wants control of that identity.

then, there's the simple reason of just being attracted to t

blah, my friends and i don't really think about this, so i can't really offer much, sorry.
it's easier to just chalk it up to a "thing" like "asian fetish" or "yellow fever," but in reverse. and without the catchy name.