I'm Anne M, and I approved this message :)
First of all, can anyone help me with making my journal Friends Only? With everything I'm going through right now, I'm really not sure I want the world to have access to it. Anyone who could supply me with a few Faraday icons would be also, most thanked. :)
Anyway, my w/e was....interesting...and those who know me know what that means, and for those who don't, well read on dear friends, and be enlightened.
Most of you know that Sunday was Mom's 75th. I went over to Mark's house--I was going to be spending the day w/him, and called her from there, so he could pass on his good wishes as well. So, we called, and sang, and the FIRST thing she said after she thanked us was "I got your Mother's Day card, but I didn't get a b-day card..." I ignored that, and the conversation was going fine, until she asked, as she always does, about how the wedding planes were going. I told her we were going to meet with the priest and ask him about a concern that had come up regarding us and the possibility of children, and that's all she needed. She went off on me(while we were still on speaker-phone) about HOW could I think of having a child, and DID I EVEN KNOW WHAT DO DO WITH A CHILD? As you can probably guess, the conversation ended soon after that.
Bottom line, Mark and I fought for the rest of the day because I was in an ugly mood, and he told me he was tired(understandably so) of having to deal with the way I was after dealing with my mother.
So, here I am, today, knowing, basically, I am going to have to tell her "If you can't stop being critical and tearing me down, I do not want you to be part of this wedding---or, maybe even in my life for that matter'. I almost called her today and told her that but knew that no good could come of it.
If she were a friend or acquaintance, it would be easy to cut her off. It should be easy, even though she is my mother. I know I will have to write her a letter--I will try to do that before I see my therapist on Thursday, which, of course, puts off the Benfic I've been promising some of you--sorry.
I'll share it with you guys as well.
It's time for me to be happy. I want a life with the man I love, who loves me as close to unconditionally as is humanly possible. I want to trust in that, rather than mom's negativity.
So, I'm giving her notice: Mom, you're FIRED. :) Unless of course, you change.
You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll find, you get what you need.-Jagger/Richards
Anyway, my w/e was....interesting...and those who know me know what that means, and for those who don't, well read on dear friends, and be enlightened.
Most of you know that Sunday was Mom's 75th. I went over to Mark's house--I was going to be spending the day w/him, and called her from there, so he could pass on his good wishes as well. So, we called, and sang, and the FIRST thing she said after she thanked us was "I got your Mother's Day card, but I didn't get a b-day card..." I ignored that, and the conversation was going fine, until she asked, as she always does, about how the wedding planes were going. I told her we were going to meet with the priest and ask him about a concern that had come up regarding us and the possibility of children, and that's all she needed. She went off on me(while we were still on speaker-phone) about HOW could I think of having a child, and DID I EVEN KNOW WHAT DO DO WITH A CHILD? As you can probably guess, the conversation ended soon after that.
Bottom line, Mark and I fought for the rest of the day because I was in an ugly mood, and he told me he was tired(understandably so) of having to deal with the way I was after dealing with my mother.
So, here I am, today, knowing, basically, I am going to have to tell her "If you can't stop being critical and tearing me down, I do not want you to be part of this wedding---or, maybe even in my life for that matter'. I almost called her today and told her that but knew that no good could come of it.
If she were a friend or acquaintance, it would be easy to cut her off. It should be easy, even though she is my mother. I know I will have to write her a letter--I will try to do that before I see my therapist on Thursday, which, of course, puts off the Benfic I've been promising some of you--sorry.
I'll share it with you guys as well.
It's time for me to be happy. I want a life with the man I love, who loves me as close to unconditionally as is humanly possible. I want to trust in that, rather than mom's negativity.
So, I'm giving her notice: Mom, you're FIRED. :) Unless of course, you change.
You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll find, you get what you need.-Jagger/Richards