roommates
the last month of roommate hunting has been kind of an ordeal. im not going to get too excited right away, because ive already had my hopes dashed at least twice so far, but i think it will be resolved soon.
jean came back from 3 weeks in paris with jordana and called to say she had decided she was interested in living with people again. so we chatted about the nitty gritty stuff, and we generally like each other, and shes in. jordana is a huge fan of the idea, because she will probably see both of us more often (and lives 2 blocks away). my worst fears about jean are her two cats interacting with squeee, and not being clean enough for her. but perhaps it will be good friendly motivation in that department.
our first choice so far is a friend of hers, who came over this evening and who she has lived with before. i would normally be suspicious of that (i prefer aquaintances), but i really like her, so i think it would be good, possibly even great. she is a social worker and activist (not the annoying kind though) and queer woman of colour. whats not to like? among other things i like, she has about as much modesty as me, and i am totally intrigued by the notion of not having to think twice about running to the kitchen or the bathroom in my skivvies now and then. in general, i do my best to adhere to other people's comfort levels, hence i currently refrain, even when i think no one is home. but the hippie child in me gets a little restless now and then, especially with summer coming.
the second was one id met before, but jean had not. she is an artist, but the squarish kind, who sort of confuse me. she seems okay, i guess, just not much fun. the serious, hard-working, boring artist type. perhaps you thought they dont exist, but you are wrong. okay i admit it, she is kind of my last choice. im sure she would be fine as a roommate, but i am always waiting for the crazy to surface in people like that. id rather it be obvous and expressed than all repressed under a sheen of responsible normalcy.
the other is a flight attendant and an artist. youd never ever guess the flight attendant part. she has a green stripe in her hair, which she cleverly hides for work. i think that takes a certain kind of person, both to do it and to get away with it, which is the kind i find interesting. also, she is bilingual as well, and i find the idea of a fully bilingual house totally intriguing, even if we never use it. it does help that she is cute and sweet, but not in an i want to do her kind of way.
roommates automatically become unattractive to me anyway, even if objectively i think they are attractive people (as is the case with my current roommates). unlike a whole swath of the population, i seem to do this with teachers/students as well. my ethical revulsion at such things overpowers any momentary titillation.
on the whole, i am feeling less stressed about the whole thing. im especially relieved that emily is probably staying for an extra month, as most of our candidates were not ready to move for july1 (except the girl i dont like). im starting to find the meeting people kind of fun, ive already met a number of interesting people. its also way more fun with jean to help. nicole was awesome and here for most of the earlier viewings, which was great, but its better to only have to find one person than to have to try to pick two people who both want it, are acceptable to myself and to my landlord, and are also compatible with each other. i think that was a really impossible task, in hindsight.
lastly, ive had a really lovely weekend with Nick, helping with her show closing, hanging out with friends (mostly mike because we havent seen each other in ages), taking the work down today, fooling around... lovelove. we are as into each other as when we first met, and also have this awesome friendship that is so great we forget to act on it the half the time. i know thats mushy and corny, but it is also totally true.
jean came back from 3 weeks in paris with jordana and called to say she had decided she was interested in living with people again. so we chatted about the nitty gritty stuff, and we generally like each other, and shes in. jordana is a huge fan of the idea, because she will probably see both of us more often (and lives 2 blocks away). my worst fears about jean are her two cats interacting with squeee, and not being clean enough for her. but perhaps it will be good friendly motivation in that department.
our first choice so far is a friend of hers, who came over this evening and who she has lived with before. i would normally be suspicious of that (i prefer aquaintances), but i really like her, so i think it would be good, possibly even great. she is a social worker and activist (not the annoying kind though) and queer woman of colour. whats not to like? among other things i like, she has about as much modesty as me, and i am totally intrigued by the notion of not having to think twice about running to the kitchen or the bathroom in my skivvies now and then. in general, i do my best to adhere to other people's comfort levels, hence i currently refrain, even when i think no one is home. but the hippie child in me gets a little restless now and then, especially with summer coming.
the second was one id met before, but jean had not. she is an artist, but the squarish kind, who sort of confuse me. she seems okay, i guess, just not much fun. the serious, hard-working, boring artist type. perhaps you thought they dont exist, but you are wrong. okay i admit it, she is kind of my last choice. im sure she would be fine as a roommate, but i am always waiting for the crazy to surface in people like that. id rather it be obvous and expressed than all repressed under a sheen of responsible normalcy.
the other is a flight attendant and an artist. youd never ever guess the flight attendant part. she has a green stripe in her hair, which she cleverly hides for work. i think that takes a certain kind of person, both to do it and to get away with it, which is the kind i find interesting. also, she is bilingual as well, and i find the idea of a fully bilingual house totally intriguing, even if we never use it. it does help that she is cute and sweet, but not in an i want to do her kind of way.
roommates automatically become unattractive to me anyway, even if objectively i think they are attractive people (as is the case with my current roommates). unlike a whole swath of the population, i seem to do this with teachers/students as well. my ethical revulsion at such things overpowers any momentary titillation.
on the whole, i am feeling less stressed about the whole thing. im especially relieved that emily is probably staying for an extra month, as most of our candidates were not ready to move for july1 (except the girl i dont like). im starting to find the meeting people kind of fun, ive already met a number of interesting people. its also way more fun with jean to help. nicole was awesome and here for most of the earlier viewings, which was great, but its better to only have to find one person than to have to try to pick two people who both want it, are acceptable to myself and to my landlord, and are also compatible with each other. i think that was a really impossible task, in hindsight.
lastly, ive had a really lovely weekend with Nick, helping with her show closing, hanging out with friends (mostly mike because we havent seen each other in ages), taking the work down today, fooling around... lovelove. we are as into each other as when we first met, and also have this awesome friendship that is so great we forget to act on it the half the time. i know thats mushy and corny, but it is also totally true.