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My dad is an independent claims adjuster with an insurance company. For over a year he's been living in Arizona...I've probably seen him for three weeks in that year. It really sucks...I hate it, actually. It's as if my parents are divorced, but they aren't; they are still very much in love...I just never get to see my dad.
He's constantly driving and going to dangerous neighbourhoods and put in dangerous situations. I'm always hoping he's okay and safe, and I'm constantly missing him.
He visited for 10 days about two or three weeks ago. He left to go back to work in Arizona last Tuesday.
Yesterday, my mom called to tell me that she had to leave to go to Arizona, because my dad fell 10 feet from a roof top.
He broke his femur at the hip.
I'm honestly thankful that it wasn't worse; he could have easily fallen on his head and snapped his spine and died. I don't want to think about what would happen to me if that were the case. I'm really grateful he's going to be okay; he's just in the hospital and had a bolt implanted at his hip-femur connection. He'll need physical therapy and will not be able to work for a good while.
See, he won't even get worker's comp, because he doesn't get benefits as an independent adjuster.
So, my mom will be the sole source of income.
Today, I told her I would be fine if we had to postpone the wedding celebration. James and I could just get married in the courthouse or maybe even just have a service (since the reception is the most expensive part) and maybe a few months later have a party.
I mean...with my dad not working, my mom's income would be used to pay for:
- my dad's hospital bills (we have insurance...but...come on...)
- my dad's physical therapy
- other doctor appointments and medications for my dad
- her household bills and rent
- food
- sometimes, my brother doesn't have enough money, so they give him some...
- AND the wedding...
That's just too much.
If I had to choose between a big, fantastical, awesome wedding and my mom and dad being able to afford what my dad needs to get better...well...I hope the choice I'd make is obvious...I would choose my dad to get better a million times over the wedding.
I mean, just because we would postpone the celebration doesn't mean James and I would have to wait to get married.
I just really want my dad to have a job where he can stay home and be safe.
Maybe this is what needed to happen so they can finally start working to make that come true.
I want him to be safe, and I want my family to be okay financially after all of this.
.... T_T....
He's constantly driving and going to dangerous neighbourhoods and put in dangerous situations. I'm always hoping he's okay and safe, and I'm constantly missing him.
He visited for 10 days about two or three weeks ago. He left to go back to work in Arizona last Tuesday.
Yesterday, my mom called to tell me that she had to leave to go to Arizona, because my dad fell 10 feet from a roof top.
He broke his femur at the hip.
I'm honestly thankful that it wasn't worse; he could have easily fallen on his head and snapped his spine and died. I don't want to think about what would happen to me if that were the case. I'm really grateful he's going to be okay; he's just in the hospital and had a bolt implanted at his hip-femur connection. He'll need physical therapy and will not be able to work for a good while.
See, he won't even get worker's comp, because he doesn't get benefits as an independent adjuster.
So, my mom will be the sole source of income.
Today, I told her I would be fine if we had to postpone the wedding celebration. James and I could just get married in the courthouse or maybe even just have a service (since the reception is the most expensive part) and maybe a few months later have a party.
I mean...with my dad not working, my mom's income would be used to pay for:
- my dad's hospital bills (we have insurance...but...come on...)
- my dad's physical therapy
- other doctor appointments and medications for my dad
- her household bills and rent
- food
- sometimes, my brother doesn't have enough money, so they give him some...
- AND the wedding...
That's just too much.
If I had to choose between a big, fantastical, awesome wedding and my mom and dad being able to afford what my dad needs to get better...well...I hope the choice I'd make is obvious...I would choose my dad to get better a million times over the wedding.
I mean, just because we would postpone the celebration doesn't mean James and I would have to wait to get married.
I just really want my dad to have a job where he can stay home and be safe.
Maybe this is what needed to happen so they can finally start working to make that come true.
I want him to be safe, and I want my family to be okay financially after all of this.
.... T_T....