Old People Problems
Okay, sir. I get it. You're not only beautiful, you're also *lonely*. However, just because you made eye contact with me several times does not mean I want to get with you tonight. When you ask where the ladies are going after the club, your interest is clear to me, because you didn't notice that I was *on stage*, and I'm not part of that group of
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#1 Part of me giving this guy my number is that *originally*, when I saw him, I thought he was interesting enough to get to know.
#2 Between that time and the time he was chasing me to my car, I hadn't yet made up my mind that this was not the case.
#3 When he pressed for my phone number, he was sliding rapidly into the Not Interested Zone, but women get the message on a CONSTANT BASIS that what a man wants is more important than what we want. Also, if we don't give him what he wants it will be much more of scene or maybe even dangerous. In this situation, I have to pick without having thought it out in advance, "Do I say no, in which case a) I have to stand in the rain and argue about it indefinitely, b) he gets angry and/or makes a scene, c) I have to deal with this guy being angry or making a scene the next time I play this club or any club in this neighborhood or with that band." The fact that I don't even include a d) option for "he understands that I would not want to give my number to a stranger" should clue you in.
To be fair, I've been out of the game a *long* *time*, and my deflection skills are not up to snuff. Just a few short years ago, he would not have gotten my number, and he probably would not have seen me walk to my car.
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