Question Towards Catholicism

[truessencepoet]

I, myself, am not a Catholic, nor a Christian in general, but becase my Love is a devout Catholic, I needed to ask a question in regards to her faith so I may understand the aspect more. I may reply to your comments if I feel they do not answer it entirely. I'm doing this so I can understand her more

Comments

It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

Guys... this is my boyfriend posting. It's not a troll. Please answer his question seriously. I think it's flattery I'm called "devout" ahahaha since I don't know much about my own faith, but...

Please answer him because I'm not able to give him a clear enough answer and I don't want to tell him something wrong.

Thanks and peace,
-Seychelle

Re: It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

...Questions can no longer be asked in this community then without the usual "google it" response? People here generally answer questions accurately and with great detail.

My apologies. I'll see what answers I can find to his question then on my own.

Re: It's not a troll.

[fabricdragon]

hey (waves)
if i can help.... let me know.

(but yeah, while i guessed this wasnt a troll, you gotta admit we have been afflicted with trolls lately, and many of us are a bit touchy. also most of the trolls have been sex related spammage.... bad timing more than anything.)

the short form? sex between husband and wife SHOULD have orgasms, and be fun.

but when fun and orgasms are the ONLY thing, not love. not bonding.. not the possibility of life. but ONLY for pleasure it becomes selfish. thats when its a problem.

Re: It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

Thanks for the response.. I definitely let him know that this board's had its share of trolls lately >.<

We both understand that it's good to have orgasms while having sexual intercourse, but I believe he clarified what he was asking below.. about doing non-intercourse acts, referring to oral sex, mutual masturbation/finger, feeling, and even passionate kissing.

Re: It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

orgasms while having sexual intercourse during marriage* is what I meant.

Re: It's not a troll.

[fabricdragon]

as far as i know passionate kissing is in the acceptable range. (grin) but i bet you could get a debate on it.

yes, we have been troll central lately.

also? honestly the way Lj is working right now? too much sex related talk can get the entire community flagged as "adults only" so everyone is REALLY touchy.

i am going off line for tonight, but may i suggest?
1. Catholicism for dummies. good basic stuff
2. go online to Pauline media. they have ACRES of great books, including some aimed at "pre-married couples"
3. look for the suggested reading list online for your diocese. just enter in the name of your diocese (mine is the Catholic Diocese of Philadelphia) and it can take you to a whole host of anonymous FAQs and stuff...

9and of course there is your parish resources, but i understand it can be hard to talk to a priest about this stuff.....

Re: It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

Thanks again~ I'll definitely check out some of your suggestions ;D

Re: It's not a troll.

[apeiron_gaia]

Hon, I am so sorry you have been treated so disrespectfully. I am gone for a few months, and suddenly this place is crawling with very inhospitable energy. There is no reason why people should be trying to make you feel stupid with comments like "you weren't born yesterday." That is just uncalled for!

Re: It's not a troll.

[imamommie]

You both should read Christopher West's book...

Good News About Sex and Marriage
This easy-to-read, question-and-answer book by Christopher West offers a fresh, relevant, and convincing presentation of the Church's teachings on human sexuality and marriage. Rooted in Pope John Paul II's revolutionary Theology of the Body, this book is great for RCIA, Pre-Cana, and adult education classes.

http://www.christopherwest.com/

Even if you are not married, it's good stuff in it regarding this issue.

Re: It's not a troll.

[seychelle]

Thank you so much, I'll definitely check this out. <3