VIRGINITY!
"Virginity is one of the most precious gifts a person can give or receive. You can show how much you love your spouse by saving your virginity for them."
- James Freeman
In 1999, while attending Pepperdine University, James gave a speech that encouraged fellow students to save sex for marriage.
Now, James wants to share some of his thoughts with you. He wrote this message to post here on our web site:
People talk about it. People think about it. People do it.
What is this "it" that I'm talking about? SEX!
More often than not, people engage in sexual activity for pleasure. While sex is meant to be a pleasurable thing, there is much more to sex than pleasure -- and there are many advantages to saving sex for marriage.
Unfortunately, our society’s views regarding sexual activity have become far too carefree and loose. According to Leslie Laurence, author of Her Health, "television, movies, music videos, magazines and advertising have at least one thing in common: they’re saturated with sex."
Laurence also reveals that according to a survey conducted by The Kaiser Foundation, 34% of teens between the ages of 12 and 18 believe that TV and movies make sex seem like it’s a normal thing for teenagers to do.
This is not the message that needs to be instilled in America’s people. If more men and women understood the risks, and more importantly, the good reason’s behind God’s commandments, I believe they would save sex until after they walked up the isle, placed a ring on their future spouse’s finger and said, "I do."
I know many of you may not want to wait, but you should, and I've got many good reasons to share with you . . . And if you’ve already had sex, there is no time like the present to stop. It is never too late to abstain.
If there is one good reason why you should wait to have sex, it’s because God commands us too. Paul writes in First Corinthians (Chapter 6:14-20) that we should, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own. You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body."
Having pre-marital sex is a sin. By saving sex for marriage, we are doing what God has called us to do. Our virginity is a gift from God. By waiting, we show respect for ourselves and for our future spouse.
Virginity is one of the most precious gifts you can give -- or receive. You can show how much you love your spouse by saving your virginity for them and in return, hopefully you’ll receive the same gift.
You should also abstain from pre-marital sex if you want to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. Some are deadly, like HIV/AIDS. Some are annoying and gross, like genital warts, gonorrhea, crabs etc. Some people claim that condoms are safe, but the high failure rates make me wonder how they define "safe." Why take the risks when you can just wait until you are married?
Besides having a disease, there is a much bigger thing that can be had - a child. If a couple doesn’t have sex until they get married, they don’t have to worry about becoming pregnant and raising a child, or placing the child up for adoption or living with the painful aftermath of abortion.
I know it’s not always easy to abstain from having sex until marriage. It can be tough, especially if you are in a strong relationship filled with love and passion. If you’re in a relationship, or if your thinking about having sex, I encourage you to make a commitment to abstain until marriage.
Once you’ve decided that you want to save sex for marriage, here are some tips to help you:
Make a firm commitment that you are going to save sex for marriage.
Don’t be shy. Be proud of your commitment and tell at least two friends or relatives about your commitment. Don’t hesitate to tell your dates that you’re going to save sex for marriage.
Have a friend who can hold you accountable for your actions.
Don’t give into pressure. Know in advance that you’ll say, "NO!" if you are pressured. Don’t hesitate to speak up if pressure is used.
Don’t succumb to feelings of lust which can easily be mistaken for love. Think with your head and your heart instead of your hormones.
Don’t get drunk or high. It’s harder to say no if you’re under the influence of a substance.
Keep in mind that waiting to have sex doesn’t mean you’ll never have it . . .
It just means that you’re waiting to share it with someone special after you’ve said, "I do," and made a commitment to share your love with them for a lifetime.
- James Freeman
In 1999, while attending Pepperdine University, James gave a speech that encouraged fellow students to save sex for marriage.
Now, James wants to share some of his thoughts with you. He wrote this message to post here on our web site:
People talk about it. People think about it. People do it.
What is this "it" that I'm talking about? SEX!
More often than not, people engage in sexual activity for pleasure. While sex is meant to be a pleasurable thing, there is much more to sex than pleasure -- and there are many advantages to saving sex for marriage.
Unfortunately, our society’s views regarding sexual activity have become far too carefree and loose. According to Leslie Laurence, author of Her Health, "television, movies, music videos, magazines and advertising have at least one thing in common: they’re saturated with sex."
Laurence also reveals that according to a survey conducted by The Kaiser Foundation, 34% of teens between the ages of 12 and 18 believe that TV and movies make sex seem like it’s a normal thing for teenagers to do.
This is not the message that needs to be instilled in America’s people. If more men and women understood the risks, and more importantly, the good reason’s behind God’s commandments, I believe they would save sex until after they walked up the isle, placed a ring on their future spouse’s finger and said, "I do."
I know many of you may not want to wait, but you should, and I've got many good reasons to share with you . . . And if you’ve already had sex, there is no time like the present to stop. It is never too late to abstain.
If there is one good reason why you should wait to have sex, it’s because God commands us too. Paul writes in First Corinthians (Chapter 6:14-20) that we should, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own. You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body."
Having pre-marital sex is a sin. By saving sex for marriage, we are doing what God has called us to do. Our virginity is a gift from God. By waiting, we show respect for ourselves and for our future spouse.
Virginity is one of the most precious gifts you can give -- or receive. You can show how much you love your spouse by saving your virginity for them and in return, hopefully you’ll receive the same gift.
You should also abstain from pre-marital sex if you want to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. Some are deadly, like HIV/AIDS. Some are annoying and gross, like genital warts, gonorrhea, crabs etc. Some people claim that condoms are safe, but the high failure rates make me wonder how they define "safe." Why take the risks when you can just wait until you are married?
Besides having a disease, there is a much bigger thing that can be had - a child. If a couple doesn’t have sex until they get married, they don’t have to worry about becoming pregnant and raising a child, or placing the child up for adoption or living with the painful aftermath of abortion.
I know it’s not always easy to abstain from having sex until marriage. It can be tough, especially if you are in a strong relationship filled with love and passion. If you’re in a relationship, or if your thinking about having sex, I encourage you to make a commitment to abstain until marriage.
Once you’ve decided that you want to save sex for marriage, here are some tips to help you:
Make a firm commitment that you are going to save sex for marriage.
Don’t be shy. Be proud of your commitment and tell at least two friends or relatives about your commitment. Don’t hesitate to tell your dates that you’re going to save sex for marriage.
Have a friend who can hold you accountable for your actions.
Don’t give into pressure. Know in advance that you’ll say, "NO!" if you are pressured. Don’t hesitate to speak up if pressure is used.
Don’t succumb to feelings of lust which can easily be mistaken for love. Think with your head and your heart instead of your hormones.
Don’t get drunk or high. It’s harder to say no if you’re under the influence of a substance.
Keep in mind that waiting to have sex doesn’t mean you’ll never have it . . .
It just means that you’re waiting to share it with someone special after you’ve said, "I do," and made a commitment to share your love with them for a lifetime.