*clears throat*
*ahem* I GOT ENGAGED!!!
So, about two years ago give or take, i asked Stacy to marry me. We'd talked about it, we'd agreed we wanted to, and i thought the asking was just formality but when i asked (at the graveyard where we met, down on one knee with a bracelet in hand b/c i didn't want to pick out the ring without her input) she said yes, and then got really quiet for the rest of the walk around the cemetery (it's a really nice place) and finally asked if we could not tell anyone. This really upset me b/c i thought she'd be excited, but she really, really wasn't. And frankly if you don't want to tell anyone then you don't want to get married. She tried to backpedal when she saw how upset i was and said it was ok, but i knew it wasn't. I told her then that we would just call this a practice run, and that when she was ready, she could ask me. I wasn't very good at being patient and I really didn't understand what the problem was and worse she couldn't seem to articulate it herself. I was upset and frustrated by turns because she continued to talk about what our wedding would be like but she wouldn’t/couldn’t tell me when she would be ok with the idea of getting married. She spent the last two years coming around to the idea and I spent it trying not to push. Of course the biggest irony is that once upon a time I was extremely anti-marriage. I thought it cost too much to get married and I felt that the institution was obsolete. Stacy seems to have been struggling a bit with the same issues, and I know that should have been better able to understand but I was getting some very mixed signals. Going to her cousin’s wedding seemed to really help (thank you so much by the by Eva I should send you a thank you note or something: P).
On Tuesday she sent me a text and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner this week somewhere nice. We hadn’t been anywhere nice in a while and I thought it was sweet and said yes. I suggested Thursday b/c I have kickboxing on Wednesday, but she wanted Wednesday. When I pressed her as to why she got flustered and said that she had a deadline, at this point I twigged to the idea that this might be a proposal thing (at the time I assumed that one of her friends had given her a deadline, it’s something Allie would do) anyway, we went on Wednesday and she did indeed pop the question. I was, and am so happy. Oh and the deadline? She bought me a ring, but we were in the car on Sunday and I mentioned that I didn’t like the color green at the time she seemed to take it rather personally, I found out that she got an emerald in the ring hence her panic and she had to know by tomorrow if we wanted to exchange the ring. I do plan to exchange it (I’ve never much cared for emeralds) but more than that, it has prongs and I /hate/ rings that aren’t flat they catch on everything. I’m currently trying to decide between a couple of the rings from where she got it (they’re all really pretty as is the one she picked out but I know that if I go with it or any ring with prongs I’ll regret it) Over all I’m excited to get to go through this mild stone, who know maybe by the time we actually get married it’ll be legal here.
So, about two years ago give or take, i asked Stacy to marry me. We'd talked about it, we'd agreed we wanted to, and i thought the asking was just formality but when i asked (at the graveyard where we met, down on one knee with a bracelet in hand b/c i didn't want to pick out the ring without her input) she said yes, and then got really quiet for the rest of the walk around the cemetery (it's a really nice place) and finally asked if we could not tell anyone. This really upset me b/c i thought she'd be excited, but she really, really wasn't. And frankly if you don't want to tell anyone then you don't want to get married. She tried to backpedal when she saw how upset i was and said it was ok, but i knew it wasn't. I told her then that we would just call this a practice run, and that when she was ready, she could ask me. I wasn't very good at being patient and I really didn't understand what the problem was and worse she couldn't seem to articulate it herself. I was upset and frustrated by turns because she continued to talk about what our wedding would be like but she wouldn’t/couldn’t tell me when she would be ok with the idea of getting married. She spent the last two years coming around to the idea and I spent it trying not to push. Of course the biggest irony is that once upon a time I was extremely anti-marriage. I thought it cost too much to get married and I felt that the institution was obsolete. Stacy seems to have been struggling a bit with the same issues, and I know that should have been better able to understand but I was getting some very mixed signals. Going to her cousin’s wedding seemed to really help (thank you so much by the by Eva I should send you a thank you note or something: P).
On Tuesday she sent me a text and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner this week somewhere nice. We hadn’t been anywhere nice in a while and I thought it was sweet and said yes. I suggested Thursday b/c I have kickboxing on Wednesday, but she wanted Wednesday. When I pressed her as to why she got flustered and said that she had a deadline, at this point I twigged to the idea that this might be a proposal thing (at the time I assumed that one of her friends had given her a deadline, it’s something Allie would do) anyway, we went on Wednesday and she did indeed pop the question. I was, and am so happy. Oh and the deadline? She bought me a ring, but we were in the car on Sunday and I mentioned that I didn’t like the color green at the time she seemed to take it rather personally, I found out that she got an emerald in the ring hence her panic and she had to know by tomorrow if we wanted to exchange the ring. I do plan to exchange it (I’ve never much cared for emeralds) but more than that, it has prongs and I /hate/ rings that aren’t flat they catch on everything. I’m currently trying to decide between a couple of the rings from where she got it (they’re all really pretty as is the one she picked out but I know that if I go with it or any ring with prongs I’ll regret it) Over all I’m excited to get to go through this mild stone, who know maybe by the time we actually get married it’ll be legal here.