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Jul 24, 2007 14:17

I've been thinking about something lately.

So, when a big group of friends gets together, there's a lot of chatting that occurs. Inevitably, someone will bring something up, saying something mean about someone who's not there to defend themselves. We all do it, including me. This weekend though, it bothered me a lot more than it usually does.

I want to stop doing that. I also don't want to be around people who do it. A lot of the times, it's about someone I know and don't have a problem with, so it becomes a question of, do I stand up, defend the person, and risk being seen as a killjoy, or do I just leave the room when talk like that occurs?

Another aspect of it is, I hear people making fun of others' physical and emotional attributes. Attributes that I also share to some degree, or due to lower self-esteem, think I share. So that raises the question in my mind - what's being said about me behind my back, then?

Of course, none of this matters if I still make comments about people behind their backs. I need to train myself to not do it, and to remember, even in the company of people who do, that if I have nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all.
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