365; these things known as bullshitting
1. "You're too good for me."
What they really mean: You're maybe great, but you're still not good enough. You don't fit my ideal. I don't like you enough to accept your flaws. Your good traits are not enough for what you lack, what you're bad at.
I think when someone loves you with their whole heart, if you cannot reciprocate those feelings the fairest thing you can do is to reply them with your most honest answer. Giving a half-assed suck-up is a despicable way to trample over someone's offering of their heart.
2. "I'm doing this because I love you. It's for your own good."
What they really mean: I love you, so I think I have the right to judge what's okay for you and what's not, regardless of whether you like it or not and even though it's your life.
If you really love someone, I think the best thing you can do for them is to give them your advice and your best blessing in whatever decision they may eventually make, be it whether or not it opposes the advice you gave. Everyone has their own life and the right to lead them the way they want it to, and this comes along with the responsibility to make their own mistakes. Just like how they don't have the right to blame you should their decision turn awry, neither do you have the right to mould their life in a way beyond their control.
3. "I'm bad for you."
What they really mean: I'm insecure and I'm scared of screwing things up.
I'm guilty of this, but ultimately, this I believe: you may have flaws, you may not be the best, you may always feel inadequate, but if there's something you really want, even if you don't qualify for it, you'll always go for it. Fear and insecurities are only deterrents when personal desire is yet to be strong enough to override those daunting obstacles.
What they really mean: You're maybe great, but you're still not good enough. You don't fit my ideal. I don't like you enough to accept your flaws. Your good traits are not enough for what you lack, what you're bad at.
I think when someone loves you with their whole heart, if you cannot reciprocate those feelings the fairest thing you can do is to reply them with your most honest answer. Giving a half-assed suck-up is a despicable way to trample over someone's offering of their heart.
2. "I'm doing this because I love you. It's for your own good."
What they really mean: I love you, so I think I have the right to judge what's okay for you and what's not, regardless of whether you like it or not and even though it's your life.
If you really love someone, I think the best thing you can do for them is to give them your advice and your best blessing in whatever decision they may eventually make, be it whether or not it opposes the advice you gave. Everyone has their own life and the right to lead them the way they want it to, and this comes along with the responsibility to make their own mistakes. Just like how they don't have the right to blame you should their decision turn awry, neither do you have the right to mould their life in a way beyond their control.
3. "I'm bad for you."
What they really mean: I'm insecure and I'm scared of screwing things up.
I'm guilty of this, but ultimately, this I believe: you may have flaws, you may not be the best, you may always feel inadequate, but if there's something you really want, even if you don't qualify for it, you'll always go for it. Fear and insecurities are only deterrents when personal desire is yet to be strong enough to override those daunting obstacles.