Analyze My Fight, Please.
I had a fight with Robert, and I need to know who is at fault. Please don't allow for friendship bias or anything of that nature to sway your opinion, if I was wrong, tell me so. The conversation started with Robert showing me a picture of the hotel he booked for prom weekend, and it went as follows:
LilMartha33: is that okay?
Lynnie251: well at this point it has to be, now doesn't it?
Lynnie251: but yes, it'll do
LilMartha33: your joking
LilMartha33: right?
Lynnie251: no I'm not joking, it's perfectly fine
LilMartha33: wait
LilMartha33: huh?
LilMartha33: you are not joking that it "will have to do"?
LilMartha33: respond
Lynnie251: well it will have to do, it's been booked and we'll be there in 6 days, but I dont have a problem with it
Lynnie251: the place is fine
LilMartha33: i think we're over after prom
Lynnie251: are you being serious?
LilMartha33: yes. you're making me sick
Lynnie251: Robert, I dont get it, I said that the hotel was fine and that I didn't mind staying there
Lynnie251: how is that making you sick?
LilMartha33: when me and my dad booking a fucking hotel for you and me and your response is:
LilMartha33: Lynnie251: well at this point it has to be, now doesn't it?
Lynnie251: but yes, it'll do
LilMartha33: that pushes me over the edge
LilMartha33: the back is broken
Lynnie251: so after prom, you don't want to be with me anymore?
LilMartha33: i dont know. im really fucking pissed off right now
LilMartha33: i cant beleive you are actually serious
Lynnie251: I cant believe you're actually considering breaking up with me because of the way I answered a question
LilMartha33: of course its not just that
LilMartha33: that just kind of pushed me further than i have been pushed by you since october 31
Lynnie251: are you serious? is the way I phrased my response that upsetting to you?
LilMartha33: absolutely
Lynnie251: it's a deal breaker?
LilMartha33: that pushed me over an edge we both now was close. and i certainly didn't expect to hit it cus i thought you would be smart enough not to push me over it
Lynnie251: an edge we both know was close?
Lynnie251: have you been close to breaking up with me lately?
LilMartha33: no! i'm saying we've been very tense. but no where near a break up.
Lynnie251: but what I just said pushed you into break up territory?
LilMartha33: explain to me what you said. you are dissappointed or something? "it'll do?"
Lynnie251: no, I am not dissapointed, perhaps "it'll do" was too ambiguous of a term but I said repeatedly that the hotel is fine
Lynnie251: I just meant that at this late stage, my opinion cant change anything, although I insisted that said opinion was a positive one
LilMartha33: that doesnt make sense
LilMartha33: dont lie to me
Lynnie251: I'm not lying to you, read the conversation again, I never said anything negative about the hotel
LilMartha33: right
LilMartha33: but you said "it'll do"
LilMartha33: and your opinion doesnt matter
Lynnie251: don't pick apart my word choice, I was being quirky
LilMartha33: seriously carolyn
LilMartha33: i am absolutely entitled to the belief that your response was gut wrentching and pissed the fuck out of me
Lynnie251: fine, but by the same token I am entitled to the belief that you're reading into something that wasn't there
Lynnie251: before you blew up at me, I had told you twice that the place was perfectly fine
LilMartha33: perfectly fine is a bullshit thing to say
LilMartha33: you say to me, its great. thank you. because thats whatit is. seriously, what the fuck is wrong with it?
Lynnie251: nothing is wrong with it! and I did say "great, thank you" when you called me to tell me you had found a place
Lynnie251: I apologize for not doing verbal cartwheels, but I was in no way attempting to indicate a fault in the accomodations
LilMartha33: and you saw it
LilMartha33: and you said your opinion doesnt matter and "it'll do"
Lynnie251: Robert, do you know why I said that?
LilMartha33: why?
LilMartha33: why?
Lynnie251: because last week when we were looking at hotels and I was being too picky, I told you to book a place without showing me first because once I couldn't pick it apart, I would be satisifed with wherever we stayed
LilMartha33: carolyn
LilMartha33: your going straight into my face and calling me an idiot
LilMartha33: i am not an idiot
Lynnie251: I know you're not an idiot
Lynnie251: I'm not calling you an idiot
LilMartha33: fuck this. i am furious
Lynnie251: Robert
Lynnie251: I dont understand
LilMartha33: whatever
LilMartha33: as far as our relationship
LilMartha33: "it'll do"
Lynnie251: that was mean
Lynnie251: you're taking this too far
LilMartha33: what? i didnt say anything negative about it
The End. Comment now please, and be honest.
LilMartha33: is that okay?
Lynnie251: well at this point it has to be, now doesn't it?
Lynnie251: but yes, it'll do
LilMartha33: your joking
LilMartha33: right?
Lynnie251: no I'm not joking, it's perfectly fine
LilMartha33: wait
LilMartha33: huh?
LilMartha33: you are not joking that it "will have to do"?
LilMartha33: respond
Lynnie251: well it will have to do, it's been booked and we'll be there in 6 days, but I dont have a problem with it
Lynnie251: the place is fine
LilMartha33: i think we're over after prom
Lynnie251: are you being serious?
LilMartha33: yes. you're making me sick
Lynnie251: Robert, I dont get it, I said that the hotel was fine and that I didn't mind staying there
Lynnie251: how is that making you sick?
LilMartha33: when me and my dad booking a fucking hotel for you and me and your response is:
LilMartha33: Lynnie251: well at this point it has to be, now doesn't it?
Lynnie251: but yes, it'll do
LilMartha33: that pushes me over the edge
LilMartha33: the back is broken
Lynnie251: so after prom, you don't want to be with me anymore?
LilMartha33: i dont know. im really fucking pissed off right now
LilMartha33: i cant beleive you are actually serious
Lynnie251: I cant believe you're actually considering breaking up with me because of the way I answered a question
LilMartha33: of course its not just that
LilMartha33: that just kind of pushed me further than i have been pushed by you since october 31
Lynnie251: are you serious? is the way I phrased my response that upsetting to you?
LilMartha33: absolutely
Lynnie251: it's a deal breaker?
LilMartha33: that pushed me over an edge we both now was close. and i certainly didn't expect to hit it cus i thought you would be smart enough not to push me over it
Lynnie251: an edge we both know was close?
Lynnie251: have you been close to breaking up with me lately?
LilMartha33: no! i'm saying we've been very tense. but no where near a break up.
Lynnie251: but what I just said pushed you into break up territory?
LilMartha33: explain to me what you said. you are dissappointed or something? "it'll do?"
Lynnie251: no, I am not dissapointed, perhaps "it'll do" was too ambiguous of a term but I said repeatedly that the hotel is fine
Lynnie251: I just meant that at this late stage, my opinion cant change anything, although I insisted that said opinion was a positive one
LilMartha33: that doesnt make sense
LilMartha33: dont lie to me
Lynnie251: I'm not lying to you, read the conversation again, I never said anything negative about the hotel
LilMartha33: right
LilMartha33: but you said "it'll do"
LilMartha33: and your opinion doesnt matter
Lynnie251: don't pick apart my word choice, I was being quirky
LilMartha33: seriously carolyn
LilMartha33: i am absolutely entitled to the belief that your response was gut wrentching and pissed the fuck out of me
Lynnie251: fine, but by the same token I am entitled to the belief that you're reading into something that wasn't there
Lynnie251: before you blew up at me, I had told you twice that the place was perfectly fine
LilMartha33: perfectly fine is a bullshit thing to say
LilMartha33: you say to me, its great. thank you. because thats whatit is. seriously, what the fuck is wrong with it?
Lynnie251: nothing is wrong with it! and I did say "great, thank you" when you called me to tell me you had found a place
Lynnie251: I apologize for not doing verbal cartwheels, but I was in no way attempting to indicate a fault in the accomodations
LilMartha33: and you saw it
LilMartha33: and you said your opinion doesnt matter and "it'll do"
Lynnie251: Robert, do you know why I said that?
LilMartha33: why?
LilMartha33: why?
Lynnie251: because last week when we were looking at hotels and I was being too picky, I told you to book a place without showing me first because once I couldn't pick it apart, I would be satisifed with wherever we stayed
LilMartha33: carolyn
LilMartha33: your going straight into my face and calling me an idiot
LilMartha33: i am not an idiot
Lynnie251: I know you're not an idiot
Lynnie251: I'm not calling you an idiot
LilMartha33: fuck this. i am furious
Lynnie251: Robert
Lynnie251: I dont understand
LilMartha33: whatever
LilMartha33: as far as our relationship
LilMartha33: "it'll do"
Lynnie251: that was mean
Lynnie251: you're taking this too far
LilMartha33: what? i didnt say anything negative about it
The End. Comment now please, and be honest.