Dynamite!
I am inept at any and all things pertaining to women and my interaction with them.
I am confused as to where my life is headed and what the future holds for me.
I am one of 6-billion plus human beings in a world of ever-increasing complexity and overwhelming problems.
I want to float away on a cloud.
I want to fall in love.
The End.
I am confused as to where my life is headed and what the future holds for me.
I am one of 6-billion plus human beings in a world of ever-increasing complexity and overwhelming problems.
I want to float away on a cloud.
I want to fall in love.
The End.
Don't know why I popped over here...but I am glad I did. If just to spread the word to you...that there is still hope for you. Breathe in rejuvinating air-you deserve it, because you care about loving someone and being loved. There are those who are so hardened they dont seem to give a rats ass about what makes longlasting love relationships. You are not one of them...you are amazing - nice looking, kind and loving and honest and practice good hygene and have a sense of humor, this I am gathering from memory. Are you thoughtful & attentive to a womans opinions & thoughts? Are you faithful? These are things that women value. I don't doubt that you are tender and sensitive as well, given your writing style. I have always thought that if men & women knew some key things - there would be more love relationships that worked.
Like, women like to be noticed, admired, nice things done for them- but not coddled, a little quiet twinkle from a guy that has a warm sparkle in their eye but not groping...humor, Strength & Direction without overbearing control issues. And then there are Men. Which I believe for the most part...also have a need to be adored and respected and a need to share passion and their dreams with in varying degrees and primarily do not care to be told what to do. And these key things in part carry you through a lot of baggage that each person might bring to the relationship... But this last year - I have learned that there is also an underlying personality factor that can make things seem like one person is being unfair or not doing his part....but by taking a closer look - the brain wiring is different because of their personality style not just gender differences. Zach got us turned on to personality testing...online...I am beginning to see the advantage of checking on personality traits prior to committments...to avoid choosing lifelong companions that are open for collision. Zach has some tests that are quite revealing as to why some people arent really great for lasting relationships. It explains a lot as to why my mom & dad were not ideal for truly understanding their differences. They were not compatible - though at a young age they adored each other. Thus they never got to that incredibly awesome journey that everlasting love can have where they "get" each other which allows the walls to not go up. And now mom is dead & dad is amazingly better with out her. I have one of these genuine loving kinds of relationships. And not surprising, the tests show that we are truly compatible... I can rest my cheek on my husbands forehead and be ministered to when I am sad or alone or stressed. And if we clash - we are devastated till we can find each other again. We respect & adore each other and tell each other what we are needing and do our best to be there. Yet we have independent interests and hangups too, since childhood.. and free to be who we are -recognizing sometimes we are just moody & dont feel good and it is nobodys fault. We can be yelling at each other and catch each others twinkle and start laughing. I pray Noah, that you match up with someone both truly compatible and also enough like you to want to love you by devoting herself to really "getting" what makes up you. I know there are broken girls out there & ... being compasionate - you may be drawn to them to take care of...which is sweet...but the woman you choose to share your heart fully with again-just be thoughtful that she primarily is what you respect-...and she shares values that you do-and approaches life on a compatible plane...because nobody likes to be made to change and probably you or she never totally will...The smaller stuff that you put up with like teabags in the sink not the trash & dirty socks in the doorway or any behavior ingrained in your personality that never really dissappears over the years...are all covered in salve...called patience and acceptance.
God Bless you, Noah. Your friend, Michal (Michelle) F.
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I'll have to write a full-length response sometime after Thursday. (LOTS OF HOMEWORK!)
Patience and acceptance, indeed.
-Noah
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