Made it though another day!
Well.. I do not know where to start..
Well.. I guess at the beginning of this week.
Firstly, I have contacted a lawyer.. he has given me great advice.. and have an appointment on Monday, to see what my rights are.. how to proceed..etc..etc...etc..File paper work... etc...
From what I was told.. if he does leave the home. I can pretty much petition the court for his wages to be garnished...etc.
He says that I may qualify for alimony, child support (of course), I will also get his pension, retirement, the list goes on and on!!!
He was of course unaware of all these details!! He thinks we are going to be roommates.. till how ever long it will take to get himself sorted out!! Yeah.. Right.... He is the stupidest man I have ever met!.. wait.. I know most never think with their brain!!
My poor sister had to live with her ex for over a year.. (they had tons of money to haggle over.. reason for the length).. but she said it was the worst thing she had ever been through.It has been over 7 years.. and they still are in court haggling over something.. the kids are put in the middle.. a real nightmare.. She is trying to school me on what NOT to do!!. I am praying that my situation will not go this far!.. I have no real assets.. (house of course).. no real debt.. but.. he MUST support the boys!! I can take care of myself.. BUT!! I am so angry and hurt right now!! It is taking every bit of strength to keep myself composed and not throwing his shit out on the front lawn!!! oh wait.. and setting it ablaze!!!! I keep telling myself.. keep it together for the kids.........!! They do not need their mom going nutter!!
He swears he hasn't been intimate.. I told him I have to be checked for diseases..etc.. I am talking about my life here!!
I am ignoring his lies.. why would I believe him... He has lied to me so much... my head is spinning..
Going for check up this week.. Need my yearly anyway!
I got a call tonight.. from a friend.. really a business friend.. They started by asking how Bill and I were doing? and I told them..
They then proceeded to tell me he was with his lady friend out for dinner, (here is the idiot part), where all my colleagues, neighbors go.. What on earth was he thinking??? there are kids that go with my boys to school.. he is a boy scout leader.!!!!!
They said they would be witnesses in court for me if needed!
I am so mad.. because... I could barely afford groceries this week!!! WTF!!!!!! He spent our food money on going out with her!!!!!!!!
I took a deep breath.. listened to my sister's advice.. do not lose it!! Just file it away in the "This is gonna help my case file"!!
I will tell the lawyer this on Monday... I am hoping he may go ahead and file papers to start paying support.. etc... (he mentioned if he was not supporting the kids that I had every right to garnish his wages.. even before the divorce is final)
Only problem going this route.. which is the nasty route!!.. but, I am beyond being the nice one anymore.. It does cost me more!!
I do have money coming from Taxes.. which I told him, he cannot touch.. so hopefully, he will just give up.. and agree.. He doesn't have a dime.. I know the gal pal.. has no money.. she doesn't even have custody of her kids.. a real winner!
What is happening to the world.. We have 9 people just at my school... who are getting divorces.. Have people lost their souls??
Have folks lost their common decency????!!!! I just do not get it!! I am such a compassionate person.. try to give my shirt off to people that need my help... I love to help!! I will always do this! Cannot change my character.. but, It has broken my spirit a little!! and sooooo sad!
I am sorry all for posting a downer again!! If I do not write down.. what I am thinking.. by brain and heart will explode!!
OK.... I am ok.. I promise.. I just do not know what to do..
I just wish he would go away.. seeing him.. just kills me... out of sight.. I am fine.. I can cope.. I am such a better person...
I have to pray hard tonight to please give me the strength to keep strong and keep my boys safe.. and keep them from hurting like I am!
I know they will be hurt.. they will be devastated....
I have to thank all my wonderful friends, here and my colleagues and friends here... They have been so wonderful!! I am so blessed!!!!
Now... I really need a Sean Bean marathon!!!!
Lady Chatterley or Sharpe????!!
Sharpe kicks ass so I think that is what I need!!!
Love yall!!!
I promise.. I will try and post positive soon.. I am having a life altering event.. and it is a good one.. Out with the trash!!