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my dad never mentions the way people look to them. If someone has lost weight or, I don't know, gotten a new face or something, he pretends they haven't. This is because a while ago when he lost a lot of weight he thought it would be a good thing but then he got really bored because no one would talk to him about anything but all the weight he had lost, and how he'd done it, and whether he was trying to lose more. This habit of his has rubbed off on me, and now I'm wondering: when you say "you've lost so much weight," is that the same thing as saying "you were so fat before?" and does "you look so good" really mean "you looked so bad?" On the other hand, is ignoring the change as bad as being amazed by it? What if you were the one person whose opinion mattered the most?