repost from 2002--much of this is still applicable today
was going through some of my old notebooks/journals. i found this list that danielle and i made circa october2000...about a month or so before i met nick.we used to share a notes journal to write in when we were bored in class in high school. some of these are silly or only applicable to us but i thought it was kind of funny and i'm super bored so i thought i'd share it. note-the list isn't in any particular order except the order we thought of them in. you can say it's an importance thing if you wanna be freudian about it.
The Ideal Man
1.Not overly muscular.
2.not hairy
3.clean cut
4.showers daily
5.dresses well-- matches, clothes fit properly
6.straightforward
7.honest
8.outgoing
9.taller than me (me means us but us sounds like the ideal man would theoretically share us. or something. so we wrote me.)
10.at least 1 month older than me.
11.not druggished. weed is an exception. the occasional acid or shrooms are also okay. emphasis on occasional.
12.has a job- indicates responsibility
13. has a car
14.has stories to tell
15. doesn't smoke
16.doesn't keep secrets from me
17.has at least 2 of his OWN friends
18.not "the jealous type"
19.not homeless this one refers to jesse, i think
20.likes purple skittles
21.can be goofy
22.has plans for the future
23.can manage to hold a phone conversation for more than 5 minutes.
24.not clingy
25. not a virgin.
26.likes or at least tolerates rock music
27.not controlling
28.has had at least one significant relationship before me
29.doesn't push away or sugarcoat truths
30. likes animals
31.does at least 1 athletic thing (skateboarders are sexy)
32.i like musicians and surfers too. in retrospect, i don't know if this even counts as a rule
33. has some quirks.
34.has no kids/has never gotten anyone pregnant
35.would back up his friends/believes in loyalty this one refers to carl and the guy danielle was dating at the time
36.likes to chill. can sit and just watch tv sometimes.
37.can cook.
38.likes/wants kids..someday..futuristically speaking.
39.doesn't move all fastlike and rushed...sexually.
40.likes to talk
41.doesn't take himself too seriously
42.shares my sense of humor
43.likes to try new things, surprise people, be surprised
44.can appreciate a good poem, quote, or song lyric
45.is enthusiastic
46.doesn't whine or complain about everything hella ...this was in reference to adam
47.has read at least one book he liked
48.if he read catcher in the rye...he had to have liked it.
49.didn't like huck finn, or at least not the ending.
50.okay with gay people/not at all homophobic. appreciate the gay men, it means you don't have to come shopping with us at often.
51.willing to learn and expand as a person.
52.can bask in the perfection of a good moment
53.knows how to spell the word sweet.
54. likes that i'm independent
55.life isn't solely motivated by one thing (raves, drugs, aol, me, money..)
56. considerate
57.understands that yeah, everyone is selfish. but still believes in companionship.
58. has loved SOMETHING before me.
59.is athiest or doesn't care that i am
60.doesn't have a terminal illness upon our meeting.
61.not more than 3-4 years older than me
62.has at least a high school education
63.kisses well. we went into greater detail here but it's more of a conversation than a list so i won't include it except for one major one:kisses with eyes closed. open-eyes kisses freak me out.
64.likes to cuddle
65. likes the sun
66.easygoing/flexible
67.doesn't fucking freak out about me having guy friends. mostly guy friends, at that.
68.gets along with my friends.
69.not racist.
70.wants to know all about me
71.takes my side in arguments with my family
72.relishes freedom at the time this was written..one of mine and danielle's favorite words was relish
73.likes sublime and rancid.
74.gets along with his parents, or at least one of them.
75.likes nighttime. specifically, 2 am.
76.wants to teach me things/take me places
77.enjoys the cara and danielle show i can't explain what the cara and danielle show is. but it takes patience to truly enjoy. carl would always try to be part of the show. that's impossible. the best anyone could get at the time was a guest starring role. the show sort of refers to our friendship in general. but its more than that.
78.thought american beauty was good.
79.likes to sleep in late
80.lets me control the radio in the car, and the remote for the tv.
81.is on time, and calls when he won't be
82.remembers important dates
83.can see the humor in seizures ...this refers to the cara and danielle show. i can't really explain it.
84.thinks the elderly are adorable
85.keeps his own independence
86. goes down. for real.
87. doesn't want his girlfriend to replace his mother
....reading this list makes me want to make a new list and see what's changed in my values in the past 10 years.
The Ideal Man
1.Not overly muscular.
2.not hairy
3.clean cut
4.showers daily
5.dresses well-- matches, clothes fit properly
6.straightforward
7.honest
8.outgoing
9.taller than me (me means us but us sounds like the ideal man would theoretically share us. or something. so we wrote me.)
10.at least 1 month older than me.
11.not druggished. weed is an exception. the occasional acid or shrooms are also okay. emphasis on occasional.
12.has a job- indicates responsibility
13. has a car
14.has stories to tell
15. doesn't smoke
16.doesn't keep secrets from me
17.has at least 2 of his OWN friends
18.not "the jealous type"
19.not homeless this one refers to jesse, i think
20.likes purple skittles
21.can be goofy
22.has plans for the future
23.can manage to hold a phone conversation for more than 5 minutes.
24.not clingy
25. not a virgin.
26.likes or at least tolerates rock music
27.not controlling
28.has had at least one significant relationship before me
29.doesn't push away or sugarcoat truths
30. likes animals
31.does at least 1 athletic thing (skateboarders are sexy)
32.i like musicians and surfers too. in retrospect, i don't know if this even counts as a rule
33. has some quirks.
34.has no kids/has never gotten anyone pregnant
35.would back up his friends/believes in loyalty this one refers to carl and the guy danielle was dating at the time
36.likes to chill. can sit and just watch tv sometimes.
37.can cook.
38.likes/wants kids..someday..futuristically speaking.
39.doesn't move all fastlike and rushed...sexually.
40.likes to talk
41.doesn't take himself too seriously
42.shares my sense of humor
43.likes to try new things, surprise people, be surprised
44.can appreciate a good poem, quote, or song lyric
45.is enthusiastic
46.doesn't whine or complain about everything hella ...this was in reference to adam
47.has read at least one book he liked
48.if he read catcher in the rye...he had to have liked it.
49.didn't like huck finn, or at least not the ending.
50.okay with gay people/not at all homophobic. appreciate the gay men, it means you don't have to come shopping with us at often.
51.willing to learn and expand as a person.
52.can bask in the perfection of a good moment
53.knows how to spell the word sweet.
54. likes that i'm independent
55.life isn't solely motivated by one thing (raves, drugs, aol, me, money..)
56. considerate
57.understands that yeah, everyone is selfish. but still believes in companionship.
58. has loved SOMETHING before me.
59.is athiest or doesn't care that i am
60.doesn't have a terminal illness upon our meeting.
61.not more than 3-4 years older than me
62.has at least a high school education
63.kisses well. we went into greater detail here but it's more of a conversation than a list so i won't include it except for one major one:kisses with eyes closed. open-eyes kisses freak me out.
64.likes to cuddle
65. likes the sun
66.easygoing/flexible
67.doesn't fucking freak out about me having guy friends. mostly guy friends, at that.
68.gets along with my friends.
69.not racist.
70.wants to know all about me
71.takes my side in arguments with my family
72.relishes freedom at the time this was written..one of mine and danielle's favorite words was relish
73.likes sublime and rancid.
74.gets along with his parents, or at least one of them.
75.likes nighttime. specifically, 2 am.
76.wants to teach me things/take me places
77.enjoys the cara and danielle show i can't explain what the cara and danielle show is. but it takes patience to truly enjoy. carl would always try to be part of the show. that's impossible. the best anyone could get at the time was a guest starring role. the show sort of refers to our friendship in general. but its more than that.
78.thought american beauty was good.
79.likes to sleep in late
80.lets me control the radio in the car, and the remote for the tv.
81.is on time, and calls when he won't be
82.remembers important dates
83.can see the humor in seizures ...this refers to the cara and danielle show. i can't really explain it.
84.thinks the elderly are adorable
85.keeps his own independence
86. goes down. for real.
87. doesn't want his girlfriend to replace his mother
....reading this list makes me want to make a new list and see what's changed in my values in the past 10 years.