Generation Gap???
Once more I am reminded just how different my grandmother and I view things, and whether it's the generation gap or what I do not know.
She and my mom are on my case to tell my girlfriend about an option for a problem of hers, and I happened to be talking to this friend on the phone about twenty minutes ago and she was liek did you tell her (first off hello I was in the room the entire time I think you would have heard me mention it even if you weren't intending to listen becasue God knows whatever I tell someone something you want them to know you always seem to overhear) but anyway I was like no, I'll tell her when I talk to her tonight if she calls because my friend is having a psych evaluation. my Grandmother was all why does she need a psych evaluation I explained that she's been in counceling (you would think I would know if that is spelt right...) for a while and they think she is a "classic case" of PTSD and Bipolar - personally my friend and I dont' think there is anything such as a 'classic case' or that she is necessarily bipolar which considering I am we would suspect.... but still we're not the doctors so -shrug-
my Grandmother is like why does she have PTSD? I know why you do with your history by why her? and giving me this odd like like what the hell is her reason or something. Not necessarily a 'good' look -shakes head- Im sitting here going you accept that people with history of sexual abuse can have PTSD. You accept that people who fought in wars can have PTSD. You accept people who experienced traumatic experiences like bombings and terrorist attacks and such can have it... and yet you're acting like my friend can't have it, what the fuck?
Anyway I kept that thought to myself and explained that my friend had a history of abuse as well, not sexual but physical and emotional. And besides that she was raped, people who have been raped can have PTSD, she already knew about the rape. my Grandmother's response was well it was a date rape.
First off, that's any less as bad than a rape by someone you DON"T know? I mean come on woman! You would think my Grandmother would be a bit more oh... sympathetic for lack of a better word considering she was raped as a young woman and her daughter was raped but nope. -sigh-
Anyway so I stopped and said no, her first child was a product of date rape (basically), but she had been raped before. She was gang raped.
My grandmother was all oh... well, that's her mother's fault for letting her get involved in gangs. I stopped and I was staring at her going what the holy fuck are you talking about? then it hit me I was like no, she wasn't IN a gang, she was raped by more than one person. Then she was like oh, oh ok, and suddenly sypathetic I'm going what the hell woman?
I know we see a lot of things differently but for crying out loud, she does live in this society, hell she watching Law and Order SVU religiously, and yet she doesn't know what these things are when ti seems that you can never escape these horrible acts and that they exist. And this is my friend, a good friend, she's like my sister, and you're acting that way about her just because you're assuming something based on an explanation I gave? I mean ok so I used a term that maybe you didn't know but even if she had been involved with a gang and raped, that's still no reason to act like you did about it... Rape is horrible no matter what the circumstances and even more so, this is my friend damn it, how can you sit there and judge her, TO me?
God I'm only making myself more frustrated typing about this so I'm going to shut up and go back to Pogo and try to calm down.
Sometimes I pray for the day I'm not living with my grandmother.