No, I said something that really hurt someone I care about a lot and instead of, like, shutting my metaphorical mouth and shutting down the subject, like a considerate person, I decided to continue talking
I'm pretty sure they hate me now and I don't blame them but I don't want them to hate me and I know that the only thing I can do is give them space to be okay with me again but every instinct I have is telling me to go keep pushing and I know that won't help but
I'm sorry. That sounds really distressing. Your instincts to give them space are correct. Hopefully, when they've had time, they'll be able to listen to your apology.
And I know you didn't intend to do this. Intent doesn't erase the harm, but it does have meaning, and the fact that you care and want to make it better after accidentally hurting someone's feelings is a sign you're not a bad person. (I say this because I know you can judge yourself harshly, and I want you to know that anyone you might think of as a good or decent person has also accidentally hurt people's feelings, sometimes quite badly.)
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I'm pretty sure they hate me now and I don't blame them but I don't want them to hate me and I know that the only thing I can do is give them space to be okay with me again but every instinct I have is telling me to go keep pushing and I know that won't help but
I haven't been able to stop crying all night
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And I know you didn't intend to do this. Intent doesn't erase the harm, but it does have meaning, and the fact that you care and want to make it better after accidentally hurting someone's feelings is a sign you're not a bad person. (I say this because I know you can judge yourself harshly, and I want you to know that anyone you might think of as a good or decent person has also accidentally hurt people's feelings, sometimes quite badly.)
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