break through
I added the Honesty application to my facebook profile, which allows my facebook friends with Honesty boxes on their profiles to comment in my box anonymously. Someone left the comment "annoying," and I have no suspicions as to who it is.
The old me, about 8 months ago, would have tried to figure out who I annoyed, what was annoying about myself, and immediately scratch and tear away anything that could be annoying about myself. Now I recognize that not only is this impossible to do, but it's just silly. I'm always going to annoy someone. My mom says "You can't please everyone and it's stupid to try." So, today when I saw that on my facebook profile, I thought "meh, that's probably true sometimes," and mentally shrugged.
Then I caught myself, was I really shrugging this off? Did I really accept the comment as true and not have an identity or self-esteem/confidence crisis? Yes, I reiterated to myself, I am fine with it.
It may seem simple to most of you, but that means that my therapy and medication is working. I used to obsess about these types of things, and give them far too much significance.
The old me, about 8 months ago, would have tried to figure out who I annoyed, what was annoying about myself, and immediately scratch and tear away anything that could be annoying about myself. Now I recognize that not only is this impossible to do, but it's just silly. I'm always going to annoy someone. My mom says "You can't please everyone and it's stupid to try." So, today when I saw that on my facebook profile, I thought "meh, that's probably true sometimes," and mentally shrugged.
Then I caught myself, was I really shrugging this off? Did I really accept the comment as true and not have an identity or self-esteem/confidence crisis? Yes, I reiterated to myself, I am fine with it.
It may seem simple to most of you, but that means that my therapy and medication is working. I used to obsess about these types of things, and give them far too much significance.