let me tell you about kaiser
i hate kaiser with a passion. however, its what my job offers and it only costs me 40 bucks a month (bcbs was costing tiayr like 250 a month for me so i had him drop me)
ANYWAY!
so monday i had an appt with the gyn to get my merry no-baby christmas present (a mirena IUS) so i take like 3 tylenol leave work excited and pensive. i get to the kaiser megaplex in plenty of time and go to check in.
i have an appointment at 440
ok whats your number
here you go
you dont have an appointment.
um, yes i do. its december 18 at 440 with dr patil. ive had this appt for a month.
no you dont, see (shows me the screen) oh wait a minute. see here you did have an appointment, but they called you.
what? who called me? when?
someone from our office called you on november 29 at 230 at your daytime number.
what? thats ridiculous! you called once at my work number to let me know its cancelled? thats really irresponsible! no one made any effort to get ahold of me. this is ridiculous! i was scheduled to get a mirena today and i only have the next 3 days to get it inserted! either that or i need someone to prescribe me another round of the pill cuz i am NOT getting pregnant!
um, well we can get you in now with dr generic. thats a male dr.
oh no that will not work for me.
we can reschedule you for dr generic part 2 tomorrow afternoon?
no, im not comfortable with another dr doing this procedure. i want and appt with dr patil and i need it in the next 3 days because i know shes on maternity leave next month and wont be back till april. i dont want to have to wait until april, but if i have to i need a new pill prescription.
the only appt she has is wed at 1050 am.
that wont work. i cant miss anymore work! i know this is not your fault, but this is totally unprofessional and inconvinent! If i end up pregnant because of this.....i CAN NOT get pregnant.
im sorry all she has is is 1050 on wed.
i cant make that! this is ridiculous! why did they only try once? why did they not try my other number? youre not understanding how important this is.
well, there is 1130 on wed too.
I CANT MISS ANYMORE WORK! ok fine, ill take the 1050, if i cant make it i cant make it. i need dr patils phone number where i can leave her a message about this mess and see what we can reschedule cuz i can tell you now i will not be able to make it wed. and i need her to put in a new prescription for me. can you leave her a message about that? and i need you to make a note on my file to never call me at work. i dont get those messages! they need to call my cell phone only.
ok ma'am. heres the number and ill make a note (she writes down some shit on scrap paper instead of making the change/note in my file on the computer)
you know what? im sorry but this is ridiculous. i cant even tell you how just.....ridiculous this all is.
.........
and the entire time some 2 year old was screaming bloody fucking murder and her mom wasnt doing anything to shut her up. it made me that much more resolved to not have one.
needless to say...i dont have my mirena. i couldnt get off work because i dont have a kid.
ok.
wait.
i understand that kids get sick and people need to take their kids to the dr. but when they can get time off to take their kids to the dr but i cant get time off to take myself the dr...its just a fuckin messed up double standard.
and this week has been so insane that i havent had a chance to call her yet. but luckily in my drug stash there was a pill pack that was only missing 3 pills (and for the life of me i dont know why...i was probly manipulating my flo for hawaii) but wtf man. i was pissed! im still pissed. pissed at kaiser and pissed at work. theres even a thing in our handbook that asks if we have any children or elderly relatives we are primarily responsible for that would impede us from remaining with the children in an emergency situation. thats messed up! why should i be penalized because i choose not to have children? would i be so penalized if i COULDNT have children? (because the chick who is going thru fertility treatments seems to get off of work whenever she wants for dr appts) i dont know. i understand that you would need/want to get to your children...but the children have fathers too... i have a husband i need to get back to! hes from the south...he doesnt know about earthquakes!
but seriously, what a shitty situation to put me in. to leave me with no birthcontrol options (well not good ones anyway...i dont trust fuckin condoms) no access to the pill, no options to get the procedure i was scheduled for A MONTH AGO! and they called me once on the 29th and between the 29th and the 18th they never tried again. that is completely irresponsible and i feel like i should be compensated somehow or at least be given a special appointment....they should have tried to work me in. i think im going to figure out how to log a complaint. i mean, cuz i like my GYN ok. (she did say i dont have PCOS which is wrong, i absolutely do and she did order about 5 million blood tests which i hate) but she was willing to give me an IUS which alot of drs wont do because again, i dont have any kids and that makes it a little more difficult. ( i didint tell her we arent having kids, just that we dont want any for a while (a while=no thanks)) cuz ive found people are a little less resistant/combative to the not now stance as opposed to the never stance.
have i never told you all that we are not having kids? i think i have. i just want everyone to know, so i dont have to field the "when are you having babies" questions everyother day.
have i told you why? i think i have, but let me tell you again....i have a list that is about 30 items long, but ill just tell you the short version.
i remember the exact moment i decided i was not having kids. it was a saturday 2 weeks before i left nashville. i had worked 2 weeks straight (including weekends) and i was totally sick(i found out the following monday that i had strep) we had taken the kids to the dr and sebastian had a double ear infection. olivia had scarlet fever, and charlotte had a resperitory infection that landed her in the er. annie dropped the rest of us off at home before she took charlotte to the er. i was laying on the kitchen floor, dizzy, sweating, shaking, cold and ready to cry hysterically because all i wanted to do was sleep. but i couldnt because i had 2 little people depending on me.
ok this has turned into something that i didnt mean it to, but there it is.
merry christmas eve everyone!!!!!!!!!!!
ANYWAY!
so monday i had an appt with the gyn to get my merry no-baby christmas present (a mirena IUS) so i take like 3 tylenol leave work excited and pensive. i get to the kaiser megaplex in plenty of time and go to check in.
i have an appointment at 440
ok whats your number
here you go
you dont have an appointment.
um, yes i do. its december 18 at 440 with dr patil. ive had this appt for a month.
no you dont, see (shows me the screen) oh wait a minute. see here you did have an appointment, but they called you.
what? who called me? when?
someone from our office called you on november 29 at 230 at your daytime number.
what? thats ridiculous! you called once at my work number to let me know its cancelled? thats really irresponsible! no one made any effort to get ahold of me. this is ridiculous! i was scheduled to get a mirena today and i only have the next 3 days to get it inserted! either that or i need someone to prescribe me another round of the pill cuz i am NOT getting pregnant!
um, well we can get you in now with dr generic. thats a male dr.
oh no that will not work for me.
we can reschedule you for dr generic part 2 tomorrow afternoon?
no, im not comfortable with another dr doing this procedure. i want and appt with dr patil and i need it in the next 3 days because i know shes on maternity leave next month and wont be back till april. i dont want to have to wait until april, but if i have to i need a new pill prescription.
the only appt she has is wed at 1050 am.
that wont work. i cant miss anymore work! i know this is not your fault, but this is totally unprofessional and inconvinent! If i end up pregnant because of this.....i CAN NOT get pregnant.
im sorry all she has is is 1050 on wed.
i cant make that! this is ridiculous! why did they only try once? why did they not try my other number? youre not understanding how important this is.
well, there is 1130 on wed too.
I CANT MISS ANYMORE WORK! ok fine, ill take the 1050, if i cant make it i cant make it. i need dr patils phone number where i can leave her a message about this mess and see what we can reschedule cuz i can tell you now i will not be able to make it wed. and i need her to put in a new prescription for me. can you leave her a message about that? and i need you to make a note on my file to never call me at work. i dont get those messages! they need to call my cell phone only.
ok ma'am. heres the number and ill make a note (she writes down some shit on scrap paper instead of making the change/note in my file on the computer)
you know what? im sorry but this is ridiculous. i cant even tell you how just.....ridiculous this all is.
.........
and the entire time some 2 year old was screaming bloody fucking murder and her mom wasnt doing anything to shut her up. it made me that much more resolved to not have one.
needless to say...i dont have my mirena. i couldnt get off work because i dont have a kid.
ok.
wait.
i understand that kids get sick and people need to take their kids to the dr. but when they can get time off to take their kids to the dr but i cant get time off to take myself the dr...its just a fuckin messed up double standard.
and this week has been so insane that i havent had a chance to call her yet. but luckily in my drug stash there was a pill pack that was only missing 3 pills (and for the life of me i dont know why...i was probly manipulating my flo for hawaii) but wtf man. i was pissed! im still pissed. pissed at kaiser and pissed at work. theres even a thing in our handbook that asks if we have any children or elderly relatives we are primarily responsible for that would impede us from remaining with the children in an emergency situation. thats messed up! why should i be penalized because i choose not to have children? would i be so penalized if i COULDNT have children? (because the chick who is going thru fertility treatments seems to get off of work whenever she wants for dr appts) i dont know. i understand that you would need/want to get to your children...but the children have fathers too... i have a husband i need to get back to! hes from the south...he doesnt know about earthquakes!
but seriously, what a shitty situation to put me in. to leave me with no birthcontrol options (well not good ones anyway...i dont trust fuckin condoms) no access to the pill, no options to get the procedure i was scheduled for A MONTH AGO! and they called me once on the 29th and between the 29th and the 18th they never tried again. that is completely irresponsible and i feel like i should be compensated somehow or at least be given a special appointment....they should have tried to work me in. i think im going to figure out how to log a complaint. i mean, cuz i like my GYN ok. (she did say i dont have PCOS which is wrong, i absolutely do and she did order about 5 million blood tests which i hate) but she was willing to give me an IUS which alot of drs wont do because again, i dont have any kids and that makes it a little more difficult. ( i didint tell her we arent having kids, just that we dont want any for a while (a while=no thanks)) cuz ive found people are a little less resistant/combative to the not now stance as opposed to the never stance.
have i never told you all that we are not having kids? i think i have. i just want everyone to know, so i dont have to field the "when are you having babies" questions everyother day.
have i told you why? i think i have, but let me tell you again....i have a list that is about 30 items long, but ill just tell you the short version.
- i'm selfish. i like to sleep in. i like to have time to myself.
- raising a child is an AWESOME responsibility...i have high expectations of the type of parent i would like to be, but know that they are unreasonable and i would never be able to live up to it and would feel like a failure every day for the rest of my life.
- i have alot of medical problems i do NOT want to pass on...it seems irresponsible.
- i could not be a good teacher and a good parent. i feel like i can do more good for more kids teaching.
- its seems selfish to have my own biological children when so many children need homes...biological children were never really an option for me. if i was going to have kids, they were going to be adopted.
- i have so many children in my life, i am not missing out!
- Bottom Line: i love kids, but i dont want to take them home with me :)
i remember the exact moment i decided i was not having kids. it was a saturday 2 weeks before i left nashville. i had worked 2 weeks straight (including weekends) and i was totally sick(i found out the following monday that i had strep) we had taken the kids to the dr and sebastian had a double ear infection. olivia had scarlet fever, and charlotte had a resperitory infection that landed her in the er. annie dropped the rest of us off at home before she took charlotte to the er. i was laying on the kitchen floor, dizzy, sweating, shaking, cold and ready to cry hysterically because all i wanted to do was sleep. but i couldnt because i had 2 little people depending on me.
ok this has turned into something that i didnt mean it to, but there it is.
merry christmas eve everyone!!!!!!!!!!!