Interview Meme vectored from Guendalina
01. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
02. I respond by asking you five questions of a very intimate and creepily personal nature. Or not so creepy/personal.
03. You WILL update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
04. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
05. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
Guendalina's questions:
1. If you could make one change in your life, what would it be?
I would change myself into a person who finishes things. College, for example. I came very close to graduating, and just got involved in working and being a young adult, and never got that last class. Or repointing the basement, which I have been poking at in random moments for years. It's frustrating to have these unfinished projects bogging me down. It's like every project is something I have to carry with me until it's done. They can get pretty heavy. Also, if I finished things, I would have achieved more in my life -- a beautiful home, like my mother, and a more successful career.
2. You and Robert have been together for many years, what do you think is the secret to the success of your relationship?
I don't think we have a secret, as such. We have stumbled through by a combination of luck and inertia. There's been bad spots. I remember some dark moments a few years back. For myself, I just kind of got used to this was how he is, and I also made a conscious decision to give in more, and agree when he asked me to do things. I'd been caught up in not wanting to do things around the house, not even reasonable things, because I didn't want to reward him nagging me. But the end result of that was nothing got done, and I wasn't winning anything. It was an exercise in pride, not in strength, as I'd been pretending. I'm still pretty terrible at doing things I'm supposed to, but I don't dig in my toes as much when he nags me, and I've found it's easier and more restful to just do some of the things he asks for, like emptying the trash by my desk or putting away something that's been hanging out on the stairs for a while. Now if I could just get him to admit he's just as bad as I am . . .
3. What was the most important thing you learned from your year as a full time merchant?
How to smile and not have a melt down like a two year old when sales weren't great. When the event was 3/4 over and I had barely broken $50 in sales, or when I was next to someone who was having a great day, I still had to be cheerful and welcoming. Nobody wants to hear jealous whining. It was painful but character building.
4. If you had to pass one one piece of wisdom to the next generation, what would it be?
You will look back on your life and regret bitterly the cool things you passed up doing because it was too much effort and you couldn't be bothered. Get up and do them.
5. What is your favorite novel?
Too, too easy. Lord of the Rings. I first read it when I was eleven. Incidentally, my nephew just turned eleven, so he's now only a few months younger than I was then. I don't believe how young I was then. I felt much older. It's humbling, when I listen to my nephew talk (or brag) about what he is and is going to be, and I want to at the same time laugh at him from my loft adult perspective, and at the same time I remember how at the same age I also thought I knew what I was talking about, and would have been deeply offended to be treated otherwise.
02. I respond by asking you five questions of a very intimate and creepily personal nature. Or not so creepy/personal.
03. You WILL update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
04. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the post.
05. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
Guendalina's questions:
1. If you could make one change in your life, what would it be?
I would change myself into a person who finishes things. College, for example. I came very close to graduating, and just got involved in working and being a young adult, and never got that last class. Or repointing the basement, which I have been poking at in random moments for years. It's frustrating to have these unfinished projects bogging me down. It's like every project is something I have to carry with me until it's done. They can get pretty heavy. Also, if I finished things, I would have achieved more in my life -- a beautiful home, like my mother, and a more successful career.
2. You and Robert have been together for many years, what do you think is the secret to the success of your relationship?
I don't think we have a secret, as such. We have stumbled through by a combination of luck and inertia. There's been bad spots. I remember some dark moments a few years back. For myself, I just kind of got used to this was how he is, and I also made a conscious decision to give in more, and agree when he asked me to do things. I'd been caught up in not wanting to do things around the house, not even reasonable things, because I didn't want to reward him nagging me. But the end result of that was nothing got done, and I wasn't winning anything. It was an exercise in pride, not in strength, as I'd been pretending. I'm still pretty terrible at doing things I'm supposed to, but I don't dig in my toes as much when he nags me, and I've found it's easier and more restful to just do some of the things he asks for, like emptying the trash by my desk or putting away something that's been hanging out on the stairs for a while. Now if I could just get him to admit he's just as bad as I am . . .
3. What was the most important thing you learned from your year as a full time merchant?
How to smile and not have a melt down like a two year old when sales weren't great. When the event was 3/4 over and I had barely broken $50 in sales, or when I was next to someone who was having a great day, I still had to be cheerful and welcoming. Nobody wants to hear jealous whining. It was painful but character building.
4. If you had to pass one one piece of wisdom to the next generation, what would it be?
You will look back on your life and regret bitterly the cool things you passed up doing because it was too much effort and you couldn't be bothered. Get up and do them.
5. What is your favorite novel?
Too, too easy. Lord of the Rings. I first read it when I was eleven. Incidentally, my nephew just turned eleven, so he's now only a few months younger than I was then. I don't believe how young I was then. I felt much older. It's humbling, when I listen to my nephew talk (or brag) about what he is and is going to be, and I want to at the same time laugh at him from my loft adult perspective, and at the same time I remember how at the same age I also thought I knew what I was talking about, and would have been deeply offended to be treated otherwise.