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When a friend comes up to you and says "Hey, I have a problem with how you're talking about and representing a minority group that I belong to," appropriate responses do not include:
a) "You're being way too sensitive."
b) "This is why I'm right and I'm going to explain it in length without ever taking a word you're saying in rebuttal, and hey, we just need to agree to disagree."
Also, trying to tell a stranger unsolicited how to cure their disability or medical condition, even if it's something that worked for you personally, is incredibly, incredibly rude.
ETA: Okay, so I may have picked the wrong battle to fight tonight. But it's frustrating, because the dancing community as I know it is so, so able-bodied and I wonder if I wouldn't be as "inspirational" as wheelchair dancers, as amputee dancers, if only I looked disabled. Never mind that I come to every class fatigued, in pain, with exercise and weather-induced asthma, and that on any given week I may be struggling with a weak right side. But you know what? My ability to dance "despite" all of that isn't ever something that I want to be known for. My dancing with disabilities doesn't make me special either, it just means that I do what you do, in a way that works for me. I'm more than the sum of my disabilities, you know? And so is every other dancer to whom you aren't according the same respect.
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a) "You're being way too sensitive."
b) "This is why I'm right and I'm going to explain it in length without ever taking a word you're saying in rebuttal, and hey, we just need to agree to disagree."
Also, trying to tell a stranger unsolicited how to cure their disability or medical condition, even if it's something that worked for you personally, is incredibly, incredibly rude.
ETA: Okay, so I may have picked the wrong battle to fight tonight. But it's frustrating, because the dancing community as I know it is so, so able-bodied and I wonder if I wouldn't be as "inspirational" as wheelchair dancers, as amputee dancers, if only I looked disabled. Never mind that I come to every class fatigued, in pain, with exercise and weather-induced asthma, and that on any given week I may be struggling with a weak right side. But you know what? My ability to dance "despite" all of that isn't ever something that I want to be known for. My dancing with disabilities doesn't make me special either, it just means that I do what you do, in a way that works for me. I'm more than the sum of my disabilities, you know? And so is every other dancer to whom you aren't according the same respect.
This entry was also posted at http://cantarina.dreamwidth.org/29408.html. (comments:
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