Completely random thoughts on free bread.
They say that attractive people have it easier in life... or that they have more opportunity or whatever. I mean, there have been hundreds of studies done on this and, even from a very early age, we notice and prefer beauty. I guess I've always had issue with this, mostly because my idea of anattractive person could be vastly different from other people's. In fact, growing up, while my friends were crushing on 
Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Usher, I was eyeing the (then) hardly known
Ewan McGregor. And, like most women, I have a pretty good idea of what I find attractive/beautiful in females as well. And, for me, I am drawn to thin bodies and exaggerated features, like large eyes. I know my idealization of what is beauty has much to do with what I think is attractive for myself as well. I also know that it differs from what "most women" find attractive. Here I am assuming that most women prefer men with muscles and washboard stomachs and also think women look best with curves. So how then are we to measure this idea that attractive people have more opportunity/get farther in life/have it easier/ect.?
The other idea to this is that I believe everyone has something beautiful about them. This goes perfectly with the common knowledge that someone who might be unattractive at first becomes more attractive to you as you get to know them - this isn't because they become more physically attractive, it's because you become more attracted to who they are as a person. There is definitely a flip side to this as well - an attractive person can be very ugly once you get to know them.
So maybe that I'm one of those - the glass is half full kind of people - for believing that all people are beautiful in some way. Maybe it's because I didn't believe I've ever gotten special treatment for the way I look(ed) - though I suppose this thought might have a lot to do with rarely feeling attractive when I was younger. Anyways, I didn't really believe in all this - until last weekend.
Last weekend I walked into a bakery where a guy in his early 20's was working. I didn't make conversation, I didn't even make eye contact but I did look good. I had just gotten a new outfit and, I'd like to think, I looked very stylish. This employee gave me free bread, free samples, and a "frequent buyer card" which he stamped over and over so my next visit I'd be getting another free loaf of bread. There were other people in the bakery and he did not offer them this kind of service. Was it because he was just having a great day - or because of the way I look? So, the whole way home I started thinking about all the aspects of that, I started thinking about this blog and about what people find attractive and in what ways being attractive could aid you in life.
Now, free bread is not a big deal but, had I been looking for a job, and that guy was in charge of hiring - would I have been more likely to get a job simply based on my looks? And I think this is where you get into the "more opportunity" area of attractiveness. It really is an interesting topic.
Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Usher, I was eyeing the (then) hardly known
Ewan McGregor. And, like most women, I have a pretty good idea of what I find attractive/beautiful in females as well. And, for me, I am drawn to thin bodies and exaggerated features, like large eyes. I know my idealization of what is beauty has much to do with what I think is attractive for myself as well. I also know that it differs from what "most women" find attractive. Here I am assuming that most women prefer men with muscles and washboard stomachs and also think women look best with curves. So how then are we to measure this idea that attractive people have more opportunity/get farther in life/have it easier/ect.?
The other idea to this is that I believe everyone has something beautiful about them. This goes perfectly with the common knowledge that someone who might be unattractive at first becomes more attractive to you as you get to know them - this isn't because they become more physically attractive, it's because you become more attracted to who they are as a person. There is definitely a flip side to this as well - an attractive person can be very ugly once you get to know them.
So maybe that I'm one of those - the glass is half full kind of people - for believing that all people are beautiful in some way. Maybe it's because I didn't believe I've ever gotten special treatment for the way I look(ed) - though I suppose this thought might have a lot to do with rarely feeling attractive when I was younger. Anyways, I didn't really believe in all this - until last weekend.
Last weekend I walked into a bakery where a guy in his early 20's was working. I didn't make conversation, I didn't even make eye contact but I did look good. I had just gotten a new outfit and, I'd like to think, I looked very stylish. This employee gave me free bread, free samples, and a "frequent buyer card" which he stamped over and over so my next visit I'd be getting another free loaf of bread. There were other people in the bakery and he did not offer them this kind of service. Was it because he was just having a great day - or because of the way I look? So, the whole way home I started thinking about all the aspects of that, I started thinking about this blog and about what people find attractive and in what ways being attractive could aid you in life.
Now, free bread is not a big deal but, had I been looking for a job, and that guy was in charge of hiring - would I have been more likely to get a job simply based on my looks? And I think this is where you get into the "more opportunity" area of attractiveness. It really is an interesting topic.