Save my life I’m going down for the last time
Let me preface this by saying that there are many facets to fakeness - I'm going to point my finger at women GENERALLY, because women are the majority that are constantly in competition with one another and out to impress. This entry, I'm focusing on one specific facet of fakeness: LalalalalaaLOVE.
I'm targeting women specifically because we are the emotional thinkers. We connect to something emotionally very quickly, latch on, and that's it. Whether it's a boy, a new pair of shoes, a starving child, or your favorite summer dress you were suppose to dry clean and washed in the machine and now you're crying because it's ruined -way to go. Where I doubt men watch too many love stories/romantic comedies to begin with (except my friend Andy...he seems to be a fan) then say "wow, that is so romantic," or sit and cry with your mother for an entire Sunday afternoon (like I can) while watching Lifetime movies all day long.
-Please spare me.
A friend of mine recently posted a blog wanting to understand people's efforts to be fake - namely women who seem to be obsessed with John Cusack, which seems to be a rather large portion of the American female population. And by fake, we're talking, consumed with this idea that John Cusack is in fact just like the characters he plays in his sappy romantic comedies that we all know and love - even some of you men have a soft spot for the man: High Fidelity.
The argument here is that a love like that doesn't exist; it's fake. We're consumed by the sight of it and chase after the mere "idea" of it through someone's brilliant writing and directing. It's true. Women tend to be lovesick and want some phantom of a man that usually doesn't exist that's going to treat them like a queen; love and adore her, and make her feel like there's no one else on earth he would even consider looking at. (hang on....BAHAHAHAHAHA!)
You consume each other. Unfortunately, this does not exist.
Dear Ladies: other attractive women exist. Whether she's on TV, or passing your husband/lover/significant other on the street, chances are he's going to look. And it doesn't have to be something he even realizes he's doing. And let's be honest - you do the exact same thing when it comes to good looking men. And if you're going to sit here and tell me that you don't...well I'm sorry but you're full of shit. There is no relationship that exists that puts blinders on both parties. But that doesn't mean we love each other any less. We try to be courteous and be conscious of it when around each other NOT to look.
Love that we see on film or hear in a lyric does exist. But if you're literally reading into it for what it's saying or showing and not considering the reality behind it, then that is your own fault. It doesn't make the scene or the music any less meaningful, or that what they are saying only exists in some fantasy land. I'm sure Chris Martin hasn't had a perfect life filled with perfect love. Does that make what he sings about any less real?
You're going to fight. You're going to stumble and fall apart - but you pick up the pieces and continue to move on. Women tend to be jealous - and if you're not, then kudos to you my friend. We have to stop and look at ourselves and realize that we're not perfect creatures.
Music and films are meant to make you feel. They are always over the top, the characters more than perfect, and they latch onto something inside of you to make you become emotional about it. If they didn't, what would be the point of watching anything? In a 120 minute film, you're not going to see the affair he had years later, or the lies she told to hang out with a male friend or a former flame. They aren't going to show the argument over what they are trying to decide to have for dinner, or the fact that his dog died and now he's depressed. Shit like that happens. And mind you - all of this "pretty in pink" crap ends where it begins. It's all peaches and cream in the beginning. That's when you're happiest. Movies end when the couples get together, are reunited, or get married. So if any of us are watching this stuff and thinking "oh why can't my life be like that" well listen Missy - wipe the sand out of your vagina and realize that their lives together would be just as screwed up as the happy couple living next door to you. Because just like everything else - there's more than meets the eye.
When you begin a new career or job - you're excited about it right? You don't focus on the fact that it is actually going to be WORK. You know there are going to be times when you will complain, you might be stuck at the office later than expected, but that's not what you focus on. You're happy to have the opportunity. The new start and moving forward with your future. And for hard work, there are promotions, increasing salaries, and maybe even new opportunities opened up elsewhere. Where on the other foot, if you're careless, don't do your share of the work, you can get:
1. Laid off (I don't want to be committed but I'm comfortable with you..maybe it'll work out later.)
2. Fired (We're breaking up.)
3. Suspended (I think we should take a break...)
...Same thing.
We have to remember to look at ourselves and not be so quick to point fingers at each other. To love, even when you think "I really don't want to love you right now" just because you're stubborn and angry. Pride is one of the biggest things that tears relationships apart. I've been in a couple - and I've had to learn to take my pride down a notch or five, and it's a continuous effort.
Entertainment is just that: entertainment. Rob Gordon, Lloyd Dobler, Jonathan Trager, and Lane Meyer are all just John Cusack. Some guy who we really don't know anything about - more specifically, how he is romantically, but we like to think we do. And I'll swoon all I want, so suck it.
We live our lives every second. No one wants to watch true reality to escape. That's what Rock of Love with Brett Michaels is for!
I'm targeting women specifically because we are the emotional thinkers. We connect to something emotionally very quickly, latch on, and that's it. Whether it's a boy, a new pair of shoes, a starving child, or your favorite summer dress you were suppose to dry clean and washed in the machine and now you're crying because it's ruined -way to go. Where I doubt men watch too many love stories/romantic comedies to begin with (except my friend Andy...he seems to be a fan) then say "wow, that is so romantic," or sit and cry with your mother for an entire Sunday afternoon (like I can) while watching Lifetime movies all day long.
-Please spare me.
A friend of mine recently posted a blog wanting to understand people's efforts to be fake - namely women who seem to be obsessed with John Cusack, which seems to be a rather large portion of the American female population. And by fake, we're talking, consumed with this idea that John Cusack is in fact just like the characters he plays in his sappy romantic comedies that we all know and love - even some of you men have a soft spot for the man: High Fidelity.
The argument here is that a love like that doesn't exist; it's fake. We're consumed by the sight of it and chase after the mere "idea" of it through someone's brilliant writing and directing. It's true. Women tend to be lovesick and want some phantom of a man that usually doesn't exist that's going to treat them like a queen; love and adore her, and make her feel like there's no one else on earth he would even consider looking at. (hang on....BAHAHAHAHAHA!)
You consume each other. Unfortunately, this does not exist.
Dear Ladies: other attractive women exist. Whether she's on TV, or passing your husband/lover/significant other on the street, chances are he's going to look. And it doesn't have to be something he even realizes he's doing. And let's be honest - you do the exact same thing when it comes to good looking men. And if you're going to sit here and tell me that you don't...well I'm sorry but you're full of shit. There is no relationship that exists that puts blinders on both parties. But that doesn't mean we love each other any less. We try to be courteous and be conscious of it when around each other NOT to look.
Love that we see on film or hear in a lyric does exist. But if you're literally reading into it for what it's saying or showing and not considering the reality behind it, then that is your own fault. It doesn't make the scene or the music any less meaningful, or that what they are saying only exists in some fantasy land. I'm sure Chris Martin hasn't had a perfect life filled with perfect love. Does that make what he sings about any less real?
You're going to fight. You're going to stumble and fall apart - but you pick up the pieces and continue to move on. Women tend to be jealous - and if you're not, then kudos to you my friend. We have to stop and look at ourselves and realize that we're not perfect creatures.
Music and films are meant to make you feel. They are always over the top, the characters more than perfect, and they latch onto something inside of you to make you become emotional about it. If they didn't, what would be the point of watching anything? In a 120 minute film, you're not going to see the affair he had years later, or the lies she told to hang out with a male friend or a former flame. They aren't going to show the argument over what they are trying to decide to have for dinner, or the fact that his dog died and now he's depressed. Shit like that happens. And mind you - all of this "pretty in pink" crap ends where it begins. It's all peaches and cream in the beginning. That's when you're happiest. Movies end when the couples get together, are reunited, or get married. So if any of us are watching this stuff and thinking "oh why can't my life be like that" well listen Missy - wipe the sand out of your vagina and realize that their lives together would be just as screwed up as the happy couple living next door to you. Because just like everything else - there's more than meets the eye.
When you begin a new career or job - you're excited about it right? You don't focus on the fact that it is actually going to be WORK. You know there are going to be times when you will complain, you might be stuck at the office later than expected, but that's not what you focus on. You're happy to have the opportunity. The new start and moving forward with your future. And for hard work, there are promotions, increasing salaries, and maybe even new opportunities opened up elsewhere. Where on the other foot, if you're careless, don't do your share of the work, you can get:
1. Laid off (I don't want to be committed but I'm comfortable with you..maybe it'll work out later.)
2. Fired (We're breaking up.)
3. Suspended (I think we should take a break...)
...Same thing.
We have to remember to look at ourselves and not be so quick to point fingers at each other. To love, even when you think "I really don't want to love you right now" just because you're stubborn and angry. Pride is one of the biggest things that tears relationships apart. I've been in a couple - and I've had to learn to take my pride down a notch or five, and it's a continuous effort.
Entertainment is just that: entertainment. Rob Gordon, Lloyd Dobler, Jonathan Trager, and Lane Meyer are all just John Cusack. Some guy who we really don't know anything about - more specifically, how he is romantically, but we like to think we do. And I'll swoon all I want, so suck it.
We live our lives every second. No one wants to watch true reality to escape. That's what Rock of Love with Brett Michaels is for!
