An Act of Love
The girls in my house are having an argument about feminism, and it's irritating me. Feminism should be a reference to empowering females in a positive way, but culturally, "feminism" doesn't mean that. It is a reference to women on the far Left who disparage traditional women's roles and sneer at men. Anyone who agrees with any aspect of feminism loses respect in my eyes. Anything that puts down men and makes a mockery of their chivalry is unacceptable and demeans their role as man.
I disagree that there needs to be a dialogue about how men treat women when they aim to be respectful. If they mean to be respectful, then women should recognize their actions as pure and accept them. Holding a door open for a woman is not disrespectful, nor does it in any way demean her as a person. It is not a sign that he thinks she cannot use her own arms; it is merely him being polite and. It is the same if a woman holds a door open for another woman, or for a man. I like it when other people hold the door for me, regardless if I have my hands full. It's a sign of respect and consideration. Look, I've already opened the door; rather than letting it close in your face, I'm going to hold it open a little bit longer and serve you.
I really think the issue goes back to service. If we all focused on others and serving them, chivalry and kindness would not be questioned, but rather accepted. It is about caring for another individual and putting their needs above your own; when someone starts considering how they feel above how someone else feels, it is a sign of selfishness and lack of regard for another. To say that you holding a door open for me makes me feel unworthy or disrespected shows I cannot take myself out of the equation and consider you. Holding open a door is not an act worth fighting over it; it is so insignificant in the eternal perspective that complaining about it, in my opinion, shows a lack of understanding of greater issues. Christ said love one another; as a woman, I can show my love for men by accepting their kindness in holding open a door. I allow them to serve me as they take a simple task I can perform myself and perform it for me. That is the purpose of service.
I disagree that there needs to be a dialogue about how men treat women when they aim to be respectful. If they mean to be respectful, then women should recognize their actions as pure and accept them. Holding a door open for a woman is not disrespectful, nor does it in any way demean her as a person. It is not a sign that he thinks she cannot use her own arms; it is merely him being polite and. It is the same if a woman holds a door open for another woman, or for a man. I like it when other people hold the door for me, regardless if I have my hands full. It's a sign of respect and consideration. Look, I've already opened the door; rather than letting it close in your face, I'm going to hold it open a little bit longer and serve you.
I really think the issue goes back to service. If we all focused on others and serving them, chivalry and kindness would not be questioned, but rather accepted. It is about caring for another individual and putting their needs above your own; when someone starts considering how they feel above how someone else feels, it is a sign of selfishness and lack of regard for another. To say that you holding a door open for me makes me feel unworthy or disrespected shows I cannot take myself out of the equation and consider you. Holding open a door is not an act worth fighting over it; it is so insignificant in the eternal perspective that complaining about it, in my opinion, shows a lack of understanding of greater issues. Christ said love one another; as a woman, I can show my love for men by accepting their kindness in holding open a door. I allow them to serve me as they take a simple task I can perform myself and perform it for me. That is the purpose of service.