"She asked something along the lines of why does it seem like her newer friends seem to know her more than the older ones... "
I think it's unfair for us to think that. newer friends know what we are now, but old friends are still the people you shared old memories with. but we moved on, and eventually, the new friends you have now will be old friends, well, you get the idea..
it's not a question of do you belong or not, it is a question about trust. if they were / are indeed your friends, you should trust that they would accept you for what you are now, no matter how much you have changed or they have changed.
i know the feeling, sometimes you feel that there's a big gap with your old friends, that even if you've gone so much with them, you can't make it the same as before..
i agree that the old friends are who we shared memories with and our earlier lives with... but i don't think it's unfair to think that way because it's a little bit of a reality... (nyak, i'm not making sense >.<) basta XD
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errr..i'm not sure if i still get what you mean. :D
nyway. im kinda guilty of that also --> i only contact old friends when i need them.. naging "friendship of convenience" na din XD i cud only wish they don't think i'm using them lng.. ganun naman e. u call them when u need them, they'll call u when they need you.. but you never feel used or wat, it's just seem natural, kase if you're gonna call to go out lng, most of the time they are either too busy or it's inconvenient for them..
nakarelate din ako sa d paglabas. i stay at home almost every weekend. :) ayoko din kse gumastos. XD
*poke* *poke* ok lng yan =) do whatever pleases you :)
hahah *pokes back* :D as i've said, thoughts ko lang siya at present ;) hihi not something i feel all the time hahah i am thankful i have friends and that makes life worthwhile enough ne? ;)
its only natural for old friends not to know you who you are now... at least from my perspective. have you played "the sims"?
in the game (in the event that you havent played it), tendency is that when you are unable to continuously talk to your friends, the "friendship bar" drops -- from friends to just being acquaintances.
such is also the case in real life. and you really dont consider a friend an old friend if you still keep in touch with them, am i not right?
the idea is that they really dont know the present you anymore. and you do not have to insist in updating them your life. not that i am saying they dont care -- its just there is no apparent and immediate reason for you to tell them or for them to know.
another idea is this -- friends do favors for friends. and that is why they ask you favors - because they consider you as a friend and they think they are your friends as well. and those are all that matter =D
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my apologies for sounding like confucius -- i had my own share of that experience myself =D
heheh generally i would agree... kaso minsan kasi parang "user friendly" (gets? :D) eh... as in i get contacted pag "uy, me kilala ka na gusto bumili...", "uy, ano number ni...", "uy..." heheh minsan parang sarap sabihing, "hi din... kamusta?" :p gets? pero i got the point about doing favors for friends... do that all the time hehe (pag kaya lang... pag utang pera, ibang kuwento na iyan (kaya ba ng wallet? hihi)...
i don't insist on updating people on my life... i only tell when they ask...
hayun :D sorry kung medyo disjointed thoughts ko... hirap magtago habang nasa trabaho hihi ;))
I think it's unfair for us to think that. newer friends know what we are now, but old friends are still the people you shared old memories with. but we moved on, and eventually, the new friends you have now will be old friends, well, you get the idea..
it's not a question of do you belong or not, it is a question about trust. if they were / are indeed your friends, you should trust that they would accept you for what you are now, no matter how much you have changed or they have changed.
i know the feeling, sometimes you feel that there's a big gap with your old friends, that even if you've gone so much with them, you can't make it the same as before..
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nyway. im kinda guilty of that also --> i only contact old friends when i need them.. naging "friendship of convenience" na din XD i cud only wish they don't think i'm using them lng.. ganun naman e. u call them when u need them, they'll call u when they need you.. but you never feel used or wat, it's just seem natural, kase if you're gonna call to go out lng, most of the time they are either too busy or it's inconvenient for them..
nakarelate din ako sa d paglabas. i stay at home almost every weekend. :) ayoko din kse gumastos. XD
*poke* *poke* ok lng yan =) do whatever pleases you :)
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in the game (in the event that you havent played it), tendency is that when you are unable to continuously talk to your friends, the "friendship bar" drops -- from friends to just being acquaintances.
such is also the case in real life. and you really dont consider a friend an old friend if you still keep in touch with them, am i not right?
the idea is that they really dont know the present you anymore. and you do not have to insist in updating them your life. not that i am saying they dont care -- its just there is no apparent and immediate reason for you to tell them or for them to know.
another idea is this -- friends do favors for friends. and that is why they ask you favors - because they consider you as a friend and they think they are your friends as well. and those are all that matter =D
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my apologies for sounding like confucius -- i had my own share of that experience myself =D
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heheh generally i would agree... kaso minsan kasi parang "user friendly" (gets? :D) eh... as in i get contacted pag "uy, me kilala ka na gusto bumili...", "uy, ano number ni...", "uy..." heheh minsan parang sarap sabihing, "hi din... kamusta?" :p gets? pero i got the point about doing favors for friends... do that all the time hehe (pag kaya lang... pag utang pera, ibang kuwento na iyan (kaya ba ng wallet? hihi)...
i don't insist on updating people on my life... i only tell when they ask...
hayun :D sorry kung medyo disjointed thoughts ko... hirap magtago habang nasa trabaho hihi ;))
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