An observation on a community I love...and what I disike about it.
I think I've been a part of the Chlollie community for a while, and quite honestly it's a big part of my life. The friends I've made and the fiction I write.
With that being said, the honeymoon is over and it's quite sad the state of it as Smallville comes to a close.
I'm not very vocal with my opinions except with those I talk to one on one. I've never really felt a need to voice them publicly.
So with that dramatic intro...I am so over the underhanded comments at each other. The general postings that don't directly refer to a particular person, but if you are smart and part of the 'in crowd' you probably can figure out who is getting shit on.
Don't get me wrong, I'm by no reason jumping on my high horse, because I've done my share of bitching and complaining, and the majority of it hasn't been nice.
So I'll be strait to the point, because I honestly don't give a shit. Twitter is the stomping ground for anyone that wants to bitch and complain about whatever they can't say on community. Whether it is about who posted what, who treated this character this way, or this ship that way. Then of course it gets to name calling. Not actually to the persons face of course. I love it when it is so general you don't know who it is about. Hell, I thought at one point someone was talking bad about me, low and behold it was someone else.
Needless to say, I deleted my twitter account.
So people are going to say to me, well it's public. You don't HAVE to follow me. You can unfollow me. So yea, that's true. On the other side of the coin, you say something to someone on twitter directly, you know that little @ thing. So why not say it in a message? Because you want everyone to see it. You may be talking to one person, but you WANT everyone to know how you really feel. And THAT is petty.
And it isn't just twitter I have the problem with. It goes back to the community to. The need to bash characters and ships, knowing that it has the possibility to offend people. It's a fucking character for chirsts sake. Get the fuck over it. I love this ship dearly, but it is fiction.
And you know what, I'm not even calling out the more obvious people, who are more vocal with their dislikes. I'm not a hermit, it isn't hard to find out that this person thinks this or this person said that.
My main point is, all of the community complaints, your issues with this person (or author as it usually is), the hidden put downs, or I don't like this person because they wrote this...I don't care. And yes, I know it isn't directed at me, so it isn't my business. But I'm sorry, I've been apart of this community to long and just like everyone else has been voicing their opinion, I just wanted my turn. You may not like it, but all my complaints are directed at things that people have said or done publicly, so oh well.
There is another reason I've kept my mouth shut for about a year, because that is how long this has been getting to me, because I didn't even want to recognize all this petty crap. Not because I'm ignoring it, but because it's stupid. The entire thing is so stupid. It's stupid that everyone spends all this time nit picking shit apart, getting angry about it. It's so stupid that it turns into a war on LJ or Twitter. I mean I just can't wrap my mind around WHY it creates these different sides. I know there are various reasons, but I don't want to hear the reasons. I don't care. Did I say stupid already?
Let me put it in perspective, I know people have other important things in their lives. Can you NOT find something else to be upset about. This ship is an outlet for me, somewhere to go to be happy when things in my real life are stressful. When I'm worried about not having a raise at work for the third year in a row, or my four year old son, or the fact that I'm pregnant and we don't have much money, or maybe that I have to take care of my mom (who doesn't drive) because my dad passed away four years ago (I'm only 28), or that my husband is trying to sell his parents house because they both died within a year of each other (he's 30). Which btw, we had his mother living here while she was dying of stage 4 breast cancer.
You know when I had hospice in my house, during the last month of her dying, and we were taking care of her, I came here to get away from it all. To write read, anything to take my mind off the stress of my husbands mother dying in our house.
I know there are people out there with just as much going on in their lives too, if not more. I'm not starting a pitty party, I can deal with my shit, I don't need anyone feeling bad for me. In fact, I think some of it has made me a bit stronger. The person I was four years ago, she wasn't this capable. But the point is....fuck, find something better to bitch about.
And if you want to comment fine, I don't care. If you agree or disagree that is up to you. Obviously I have my opinion and you have yours. But I'm not going to reply back with the intention of an argument or to further push my point home. This is really all I have to say on it. If I sat here arguing it, I'd only be doing exactly what I said I hated.
With that being said, the honeymoon is over and it's quite sad the state of it as Smallville comes to a close.
I'm not very vocal with my opinions except with those I talk to one on one. I've never really felt a need to voice them publicly.
So with that dramatic intro...I am so over the underhanded comments at each other. The general postings that don't directly refer to a particular person, but if you are smart and part of the 'in crowd' you probably can figure out who is getting shit on.
Don't get me wrong, I'm by no reason jumping on my high horse, because I've done my share of bitching and complaining, and the majority of it hasn't been nice.
So I'll be strait to the point, because I honestly don't give a shit. Twitter is the stomping ground for anyone that wants to bitch and complain about whatever they can't say on community. Whether it is about who posted what, who treated this character this way, or this ship that way. Then of course it gets to name calling. Not actually to the persons face of course. I love it when it is so general you don't know who it is about. Hell, I thought at one point someone was talking bad about me, low and behold it was someone else.
Needless to say, I deleted my twitter account.
So people are going to say to me, well it's public. You don't HAVE to follow me. You can unfollow me. So yea, that's true. On the other side of the coin, you say something to someone on twitter directly, you know that little @ thing. So why not say it in a message? Because you want everyone to see it. You may be talking to one person, but you WANT everyone to know how you really feel. And THAT is petty.
And it isn't just twitter I have the problem with. It goes back to the community to. The need to bash characters and ships, knowing that it has the possibility to offend people. It's a fucking character for chirsts sake. Get the fuck over it. I love this ship dearly, but it is fiction.
And you know what, I'm not even calling out the more obvious people, who are more vocal with their dislikes. I'm not a hermit, it isn't hard to find out that this person thinks this or this person said that.
My main point is, all of the community complaints, your issues with this person (or author as it usually is), the hidden put downs, or I don't like this person because they wrote this...I don't care. And yes, I know it isn't directed at me, so it isn't my business. But I'm sorry, I've been apart of this community to long and just like everyone else has been voicing their opinion, I just wanted my turn. You may not like it, but all my complaints are directed at things that people have said or done publicly, so oh well.
There is another reason I've kept my mouth shut for about a year, because that is how long this has been getting to me, because I didn't even want to recognize all this petty crap. Not because I'm ignoring it, but because it's stupid. The entire thing is so stupid. It's stupid that everyone spends all this time nit picking shit apart, getting angry about it. It's so stupid that it turns into a war on LJ or Twitter. I mean I just can't wrap my mind around WHY it creates these different sides. I know there are various reasons, but I don't want to hear the reasons. I don't care. Did I say stupid already?
Let me put it in perspective, I know people have other important things in their lives. Can you NOT find something else to be upset about. This ship is an outlet for me, somewhere to go to be happy when things in my real life are stressful. When I'm worried about not having a raise at work for the third year in a row, or my four year old son, or the fact that I'm pregnant and we don't have much money, or maybe that I have to take care of my mom (who doesn't drive) because my dad passed away four years ago (I'm only 28), or that my husband is trying to sell his parents house because they both died within a year of each other (he's 30). Which btw, we had his mother living here while she was dying of stage 4 breast cancer.
You know when I had hospice in my house, during the last month of her dying, and we were taking care of her, I came here to get away from it all. To write read, anything to take my mind off the stress of my husbands mother dying in our house.
I know there are people out there with just as much going on in their lives too, if not more. I'm not starting a pitty party, I can deal with my shit, I don't need anyone feeling bad for me. In fact, I think some of it has made me a bit stronger. The person I was four years ago, she wasn't this capable. But the point is....fuck, find something better to bitch about.
And if you want to comment fine, I don't care. If you agree or disagree that is up to you. Obviously I have my opinion and you have yours. But I'm not going to reply back with the intention of an argument or to further push my point home. This is really all I have to say on it. If I sat here arguing it, I'd only be doing exactly what I said I hated.