Breathing in the dark
Things are settling down... a bit. We learned on Tuesday morning that my husband's cousin, Paul, died on Monday night. Hence my previous post. Pending further blood tests, the cause of his death is still un-known, a fact that I feel might delay closure for his loved ones.
My husband and his cousin, who would have been 34 on Tuesday, were very close growing up and were more like brothers at times. It's been a hard blow for Ronnie. Currently Ronnie is emotionally withdrawn, which I try my best as an emotional extrovert to not take personally, thankfully he's not physically withdrawn as well. I can't tell if it's because he wants my presence around to make him feel better or if he's trying to make an effort to reach out to me and not withdraw from me completely. I'm grateful either way. I'm also grateful that the last time we saw Paul was at our wedding, and I'm really hoping I'll have some good pictures to give to his mother.
Go call your loved ones up, tell them you love them, appologise for something insignificant if you need to, take the blame if it'll get the lines of communication open if they're closed, don't take them for granted, and just drop a line to say "hello, thinking about you". At the least, it'll make someone's day and sometimes thats all you can do.
My husband and his cousin, who would have been 34 on Tuesday, were very close growing up and were more like brothers at times. It's been a hard blow for Ronnie. Currently Ronnie is emotionally withdrawn, which I try my best as an emotional extrovert to not take personally, thankfully he's not physically withdrawn as well. I can't tell if it's because he wants my presence around to make him feel better or if he's trying to make an effort to reach out to me and not withdraw from me completely. I'm grateful either way. I'm also grateful that the last time we saw Paul was at our wedding, and I'm really hoping I'll have some good pictures to give to his mother.
Go call your loved ones up, tell them you love them, appologise for something insignificant if you need to, take the blame if it'll get the lines of communication open if they're closed, don't take them for granted, and just drop a line to say "hello, thinking about you". At the least, it'll make someone's day and sometimes thats all you can do.