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Jul 22, 2007 22:22

"children of workaholics [have the same problems] as children of alcoholics: anxiety and depression" ~the guy on the radio ( Read more... )

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_n_i_k_e_n_ July 23 2007, 15:04:06 UTC
We need to have lunch and talk about this, if you want to-things are a bit more complex here.

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hiemdal July 24 2007, 00:16:02 UTC
If he considers himself a moral person he should realize that mistreating others is a pretty negative thing and he should stop it. This actually holds true whether he cares about/listens to others or not. A higher power isn't needed for him to realize that.

Also the fact (I'm accepting everything you say as fact to make this smooth and quick) that he doesn't care about what others say pretty much makes him not a moral person. I'm Discordian and believe this to be true, hell I could approach this from a Solipsist point of view and and still be right.

Taking everything you've said at face value, I'm going to go ahead and call your dad a liar.

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calcnerd256 July 24 2007, 00:47:37 UTC
well he could just be lying to himself
he could have such a useless definition of morality (ie, "I've never killed anyone...") that he truly believes his actions to be amoral

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taurean_man July 24 2007, 05:00:49 UTC
That makes you a young man who can decide how he wants to live his life. The facts of your upbringing aren't under your control, but how you react to them is.

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calcnerd256 July 24 2007, 05:10:31 UTC
yeah, and i've decided to not drink and to try very hard to always listen to balaam's donkey, even though it's hard

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leitha_phoenix July 24 2007, 13:15:51 UTC
balaam's donkey?

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leitha_phoenix July 24 2007, 13:18:20 UTC
Yeah, I'm with Alex. I'll bet things are much more complex here, and you do have options.

However, I completely understand feeling like there's absolutely no way to get through to a parent. My own dad's a workaholic, and he's supremely overweight, but he won't listen to any of us when we tell him that he's basically killing himself slowly, and he was never, ever there for us when we were growing up, despite repeated attempt to reach out and let him know we wanted him to be there.

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calcnerd256 July 25 2007, 19:51:21 UTC
and i'm not saying i have the worst dad ever
i know people with worse relationships with their dads, but i also know people with better relationships with their dads
but none of that changes anything about my relationship with my dad
it's not some relative measure

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