Social Retardation
It has come to my attention recently that a large number of gay men are, in fact, socially retarded. A theory was put forward to explain this, claiming that as homosexuals are the only minority which is almost universally raised by parents belonging to the dominant majority, there is a very short span of time during which we can develop as individuals belonging to a particular culture - that is, gay/queer/bi/whatever. In general, I agree with this, but there are certain skills which are fundamental, which shouldn't vary from culture to culture. For example, if you have been openly staring at someone for several hours, and he moves over close to you, doesn't it seem common courtesy for you to introduce yourself? Especially if he is talking to your friend who is standing right beside you?
Not that I really have any room to talk; I'm just as socially retarded as anyone else. I suppose it takes a certain amount of blind faith, or stupidity, or supreme self-confidence to say hello to someone you don't know. The club atmosphere doesn't help, as it is loud and dark and lends itself to anonymity. Beyond this, however, it seems gay men look toward a prince-and-princess ideal for relationships, and everyone wants to be the princess, everyone wants to have love charge down and sweep them off their feet. No one wants to be the one to do the charging. In a club, this translates into "the game": "I'm looking at you! Oh wait no I'm not. Yes I am! No I'm not. Are you coming over here or do I have to look at you again?"
As an interesting aside, the only person I actually did make out with on New Year's was Heather. And it was nice. I guess this means I'm firmly back in the bisexual camp...are bisexuals as socially retarded as gay men? Is there hope for me yet?
Not that I really have any room to talk; I'm just as socially retarded as anyone else. I suppose it takes a certain amount of blind faith, or stupidity, or supreme self-confidence to say hello to someone you don't know. The club atmosphere doesn't help, as it is loud and dark and lends itself to anonymity. Beyond this, however, it seems gay men look toward a prince-and-princess ideal for relationships, and everyone wants to be the princess, everyone wants to have love charge down and sweep them off their feet. No one wants to be the one to do the charging. In a club, this translates into "the game": "I'm looking at you! Oh wait no I'm not. Yes I am! No I'm not. Are you coming over here or do I have to look at you again?"
As an interesting aside, the only person I actually did make out with on New Year's was Heather. And it was nice. I guess this means I'm firmly back in the bisexual camp...are bisexuals as socially retarded as gay men? Is there hope for me yet?