you get what you give
Something that someone rather special to me said tonight sparked a thought in me. It's been kinda brewing for a little bit, since the night before when someone else gave me a good amount of advice. Please forgive my rambling at this point. I'm tired and getting ready to go to bed so I can get that damned community service done and get the probation officer the fuck off my back. Man he's screwing things tight.
Anyway, the point on this is the If I Scratch Your Back Will You Scratch Mine? problem a lot of people have. Why do people think that just because they do something nice for someone, they have to be repaid? When the hell did "thank you" become so worthless? You hear it all over the place, you know. Thank you for this, thank you for that. It's beginning to lose it's power because of the false feelings that are truly behind it. People say it if they just want the situation to end, or feel guilty and want to not feel like that anymore.
When did "thank you" stop meaning thank you?
When did friendship start coming with a price tag? When did we start counting boons and IOUs? What the fuck has happened? Call me old-fashioned if you want, but goddamn it, you know, if I do something nice for someone, I don't expect anything in return. I do it because I'm a fucking nice guy and I fucking like doing good things. I like seeing people smile. I hate seeing people in pain.
The worst of it comes when someone expects something that's totally uncalled for. I hate to use this reason, but nothing else really illustrates it well. I've been told of some people (and there are more than just a couple here) that say they want to be "friends" and then expect some sex or other kind of relationship that just isn't possible or wanted. This is little above prostitution and it can really hurt the other person. Remember how I said I don't like seeing people in pain? Right.
Get this in your heads, people. Read this and learn it. You only get what you give. If you give misery, all you get will be misery. If you don't believe me, then talk to the people that have been left behind because they treated someone with a "friendship" where they thought they were entitled to things that they simply weren't going to get. See the misery they are feeling. You get what you give. I don't have a lot of friends because I'm just different. I'm not like any of you, and I like it that way. I am damn proud of who I am and I'm not going to change who I am just because someone else suggests something.
I get what I give. While I don't have any more than maybe five friends in this whole world, I'd give my life for any of them. It's just how I feel about friendship. Don't feel bad if you're not on "The List". Most people aren't, and it's not personal. I consider friendship a sacred thing and I will just not blindly give it away. I used to, and it got me hurt. This is the result.
But those friends I will do almost anything for. Yeah, I know, I said I'd die for them and I would. That's not a high price to pay for friendship for me. And you know what? I didn't "pay" for any of them. I didn't put any expectations on them. If they wanted to return my friendship, then great. I can be a great friend because I am -willing- to do these things, and I do it without any second thought or expectation.
I get what I give. Having few friends has left me lonley, but I can live with that. I know, somewhere down the line, someone is going to fall hard for me, just like I will fall hard for them. I might already know them, I might not. Might be male, might be female. Who knows? Definitely not me.
You get what you give. So stop fucking around and give a little bit of yourself at least. You could be surprised at the amount you actually get back. You might not get it today, you might not get it tomorrow... but you will get it. You will get what's coming for you.
Karma's a bitch, isn't it? I'll be laughing my ass off when I'm set and happy for the rest of my life and the rest of you are still wondering why you are getting back nothing but misery.
Good night.
Anyway, the point on this is the If I Scratch Your Back Will You Scratch Mine? problem a lot of people have. Why do people think that just because they do something nice for someone, they have to be repaid? When the hell did "thank you" become so worthless? You hear it all over the place, you know. Thank you for this, thank you for that. It's beginning to lose it's power because of the false feelings that are truly behind it. People say it if they just want the situation to end, or feel guilty and want to not feel like that anymore.
When did "thank you" stop meaning thank you?
When did friendship start coming with a price tag? When did we start counting boons and IOUs? What the fuck has happened? Call me old-fashioned if you want, but goddamn it, you know, if I do something nice for someone, I don't expect anything in return. I do it because I'm a fucking nice guy and I fucking like doing good things. I like seeing people smile. I hate seeing people in pain.
The worst of it comes when someone expects something that's totally uncalled for. I hate to use this reason, but nothing else really illustrates it well. I've been told of some people (and there are more than just a couple here) that say they want to be "friends" and then expect some sex or other kind of relationship that just isn't possible or wanted. This is little above prostitution and it can really hurt the other person. Remember how I said I don't like seeing people in pain? Right.
Get this in your heads, people. Read this and learn it. You only get what you give. If you give misery, all you get will be misery. If you don't believe me, then talk to the people that have been left behind because they treated someone with a "friendship" where they thought they were entitled to things that they simply weren't going to get. See the misery they are feeling. You get what you give. I don't have a lot of friends because I'm just different. I'm not like any of you, and I like it that way. I am damn proud of who I am and I'm not going to change who I am just because someone else suggests something.
I get what I give. While I don't have any more than maybe five friends in this whole world, I'd give my life for any of them. It's just how I feel about friendship. Don't feel bad if you're not on "The List". Most people aren't, and it's not personal. I consider friendship a sacred thing and I will just not blindly give it away. I used to, and it got me hurt. This is the result.
But those friends I will do almost anything for. Yeah, I know, I said I'd die for them and I would. That's not a high price to pay for friendship for me. And you know what? I didn't "pay" for any of them. I didn't put any expectations on them. If they wanted to return my friendship, then great. I can be a great friend because I am -willing- to do these things, and I do it without any second thought or expectation.
I get what I give. Having few friends has left me lonley, but I can live with that. I know, somewhere down the line, someone is going to fall hard for me, just like I will fall hard for them. I might already know them, I might not. Might be male, might be female. Who knows? Definitely not me.
You get what you give. So stop fucking around and give a little bit of yourself at least. You could be surprised at the amount you actually get back. You might not get it today, you might not get it tomorrow... but you will get it. You will get what's coming for you.
Karma's a bitch, isn't it? I'll be laughing my ass off when I'm set and happy for the rest of my life and the rest of you are still wondering why you are getting back nothing but misery.
Good night.