I realize that Matt has a serious mental health issue, but EVERYONE has problems, and baggage, some worse than others. However, if someone is motivated enough, they can try to work through their issues to function better and more productively in life and in relationships.
I know. But...he really isn't well. I spoke to him on the phone on Wednesday, while he was quite drunk, and he told me he was thinking that the only way he could be truly happy with if he was six feet under. Ie if he committed suicide. He told me yesterday that he couldn't keep dating me because of what it would do to me if he killed himself. I know that he's really unstable mentally. And, I thought we could make it. But I guess it's too much for him right now.
I don't know. We may stay friends. Not right for the minute obviously...maybe we'll start hanging out again once I'm back from my trip. But, I'm not waiting for him to sort his life out so we can be together again. I will date other people. Not that I can really conceive of dating anyone else right now...
Oh, Andrea...I'm so afraid right now. I don't want to be scared of being alone, but I am. I'm so scared...
Oh Erin, I'm so so sorry you have to go through this. But you are being very smart and mature about the whole thing. Matt's problems are even more serious and frightening than I realized. I really hope he gets the help he needs. If it feels right to you to stay friends with him for now, then go with your gut. If not, then you've done the best you could to support him during a very difficult time, but now you have to move on and take care of yourself.
I'm scared of being alone, too. But I really believe I'm not meant to be alone forever and that I will find someone. And also, I have my family and my friends, so I'm really not alone. I really believe you are going to find someone who is right for you. You have time. We both do. Everyone is on their own, unique path.
I just finished a book about spirituality called "Life Is Test" - it explains that everything that happens to us in life, both the good and the bad, is a test, but that faith helps us pass those tests successfully. Sometimes it's so hard to have faith and hope, but if we lose all our hope, then we really don't have much of anything.
I'm so glad we have each other! You see, we're not alone!!
I realize that Matt has a serious mental health issue, but EVERYONE has problems, and baggage, some worse than others. However, if someone is motivated enough, they can try to work through their issues to function better and more productively in life and in relationships.
I know. But...he really isn't well. I spoke to him on the phone on Wednesday, while he was quite drunk, and he told me he was thinking that the only way he could be truly happy with if he was six feet under. Ie if he committed suicide. He told me yesterday that he couldn't keep dating me because of what it would do to me if he killed himself. I know that he's really unstable mentally. And, I thought we could make it. But I guess it's too much for him right now.
I don't know. We may stay friends. Not right for the minute obviously...maybe we'll start hanging out again once I'm back from my trip. But, I'm not waiting for him to sort his life out so we can be together again. I will date other people. Not that I can really conceive of dating anyone else right now...
Oh, Andrea...I'm so afraid right now. I don't want to be scared of being alone, but I am. I'm so scared...
Thank goodness we have each other, eh?
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I'm scared of being alone, too. But I really believe I'm not meant to be alone forever and that I will find someone. And also, I have my family and my friends, so I'm really not alone. I really believe you are going to find someone who is right for you. You have time. We both do. Everyone is on their own, unique path.
I just finished a book about spirituality called "Life Is Test" - it explains that everything that happens to us in life, both the good and the bad, is a test, but that faith helps us pass those tests successfully. Sometimes it's so hard to have faith and hope, but if we lose all our hope, then we really don't have much of anything.
I'm so glad we have each other! You see, we're not alone!!
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