Ah, the Internet: bringing new forms of guilt
I'm developing "match guilt." It's like TiVO/DVR guilt or Netflix guilt: a mental state created when there's so much of something which requires your attention that you don't have time to properly address it all, which only serves to create a further backlog that requires your attention. It's a self-perpetuating, spiraling form of obligation that
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I've been thinking about the "too attractive" comment since I wrote it, because I knew that wasn't adequately capturing what I meant. I can see how it would come across as a statement of low self-esteem, particularly given how poorly worded it was. I do ask out and date attractive women, so self-esteem isn't really the issue. What I was attempting to convey would be more accurately described as an anticipated lack of interest based on a variety of factors.
What I failed to adequately outline was the set of variables that I notice in some of these profiles of women whom I would not expect to be attracted to a 38 year old geek such as myself. These tend to be younger, active, fit and their profiles/photos suggest they're interested in the hipper club scene. I have a pretty realistic sense of who and what I am. I'm a good guy, but I mostly likely do not presently fit their criteria along those dimensions. I'd expect them to be more interested in younger more active men who also enjoy those same settings. So, perhaps what I butchered earlier was simply another set of compatibility points.
That said, I'm still going to contact the ones I'm interested in and see what happens. As both you and Rabhairt have said, the women will sort themselves.
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