I'm officaly a doormat.......
"I'm not just a doormat. I'm not just being stepped on all over the place. If you look at the bulk of my material, it's about trying to find some strength through that. Lucinda Williams"
So some how with in the last few months, of living with my sister's current (squatter) boyfriend, I have become the house doormat. Now I can deal with the stuff between Brian and I, we may have some struggles when it come to cleaning house, but he gets a "get out of jail free pass" every once in a while, for working 40 hours a week, and then having school on top of it. He has helped when he could, or has been asked, but sometimes it lacks, which is where I have been picking it up.
My sister only pays (reduced) rent, no house hold utility bills, so she helps out every once in a while with cleaning, and such. since she got a boy who sleeps over, (I have not commented or threatened rent on him yet) almost every night, she no longer helps out. we have gotten in a few fights over it too. She feels like I make her do ever thing, when I only ask her once in a blue moon to do something. I get extremely P.O.ed with how it happens, and the attitude we both contribute to it, but feel like I'm her slave most of the time. She eats out all the time to not have to do dishes, even thought her and her boy use the dishes just as often as brian and I do. Brian and I may make more of a mess, but that is because we cook with our pots and pans daily.
I have found out the boyfriend is now using our shower for bathing, instead of driving up to Lynnwood where his parents live, okay But showering at 11 o'clock at night and using my shampoo is over doing it. I can hear you... The bathroom is between the bedrooms.
Then there is leaving leftovers, from eating out in my fridge to rot. Not what I want to deal with.
So over all I have become 'House Mom" and I have NO Kids yet, just two cats. Brian has informed me to confront my sister, I know this needs to be done, but I really don"t know how this is going to work. Direct is good, but how do I tell her her boy has to start paying rent or has to be out? That's the part I'm really worried about. =/