This is a sucky way to respond to you, but it's all I can do right now; I know that if I put it off, I won't respond at all. So here goes:
Part of being a friend - much less "best friend" - is allowing each other to grow. No, that's not true ... it's HELPING and PUSHING each other to grow. I always wanted you to be better - better for you, to live a better life, to do better things and be a better person. What pissed me off is that, the second you see me changing (and, in actuality, growing) you call it "being fake". True friends love each other through change - whether they agree with it or not. I refused to let you hold me back - to look down on me and be as condescending as you were for becoming the person I wanted to be. Whether you think I'm too young to do the things I'm doing or not are not a concern for me. Isn't that something you always said that you loved about me? Didn't you love that I didn't live my life for other people? The same holds true here. I'm being true to myself, and not letting anyone who disagrees or doesn't understand stand in my way. I am ready to be married, despite what you think. I am ready for the career and life I've been launched into. Do you realize that I have my own apartment? Do you realize that I have an amazing job and make more money than some people with a 4-year degree? Do you realize that I'm getting married to the man of my dreams - the guy I've been crazy about for years - my soulmate, the best thing to EVER happen to me?! Do you realize that I absolutely LOVE my life? Am I supposed to second-guess all of that because someone thinks it's "not who I am"? People grow up, Hope. People grow and change and become better for themselves - whether the people around them remain constant may be another story.
How DARE you talk about my life as if I don't know what I'm doing - as if I'm growing up too fast and you know what's best. How DARE you think for a SECOND that I can't live this out my way and be okay. Do you know that, when I saw on your MySpace that I was listed as a "hero", I cried? I felt like I'd given up on someone who loved me so much and all this, but now? No. I don't need anyone in my life who isn't going to make it better. If you decide to grow up, appreciate who I'm becoming, and encourage the growth at hand, I will be more than happy to reconcile. I will be more than happy to encourage you and watch you grow.
I'd like to put your mind at ease: you said, "I feel like i really did something horrible or something..." That something is that you showed - whether you meant to or not - how conditional your friendship was. The minute I did something you didn't agree with or didn't understand, you threw accusations and attacked my character. I will never allow anyone to treat me that way - not even a "best friend".
This is a sucky way to respond to you, but it's all I can do right now; I know that if I put it off, I won't respond at all. So here goes:
Part of being a friend - much less "best friend" - is allowing each other to grow. No, that's not true ... it's HELPING and PUSHING each other to grow. I always wanted you to be better - better for you, to live a better life, to do better things and be a better person. What pissed me off is that, the second you see me changing (and, in actuality, growing) you call it "being fake". True friends love each other through change - whether they agree with it or not. I refused to let you hold me back - to look down on me and be as condescending as you were for becoming the person I wanted to be. Whether you think I'm too young to do the things I'm doing or not are not a concern for me. Isn't that something you always said that you loved about me? Didn't you love that I didn't live my life for other people? The same holds true here. I'm being true to myself, and not letting anyone who disagrees or doesn't understand stand in my way. I am ready to be married, despite what you think. I am ready for the career and life I've been launched into. Do you realize that I have my own apartment? Do you realize that I have an amazing job and make more money than some people with a 4-year degree? Do you realize that I'm getting married to the man of my dreams - the guy I've been crazy about for years - my soulmate, the best thing to EVER happen to me?! Do you realize that I absolutely LOVE my life? Am I supposed to second-guess all of that because someone thinks it's "not who I am"? People grow up, Hope. People grow and change and become better for themselves - whether the people around them remain constant may be another story.
How DARE you talk about my life as if I don't know what I'm doing - as if I'm growing up too fast and you know what's best. How DARE you think for a SECOND that I can't live this out my way and be okay. Do you know that, when I saw on your MySpace that I was listed as a "hero", I cried? I felt like I'd given up on someone who loved me so much and all this, but now? No. I don't need anyone in my life who isn't going to make it better. If you decide to grow up, appreciate who I'm becoming, and encourage the growth at hand, I will be more than happy to reconcile. I will be more than happy to encourage you and watch you grow.
I'd like to put your mind at ease: you said, "I feel like i really did something horrible or something..."
That something is that you showed - whether you meant to or not - how conditional your friendship was. The minute I did something you didn't agree with or didn't understand, you threw accusations and attacked my character. I will never allow anyone to treat me that way - not even a "best friend".
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