I know exactly how you feel because, believe me, I have been there on a regular basis with my husband..although things *are* starting to improve, I still feel as though I constantly have to beg or initiate things...
So I'm not going to tell you to "try this, or that" because I'm sure you've tried everything you can think of to get her in the mood or seduce her.
I'm not going to tell you not to think it's you, because of course you are going to think that---how could you not? No matter what she says in terms of "I'm tired" or "It has nothing to do with how desirable I find you"..you are still going to feel as though you simply don't turn her on.
I'm not going to tell you to play hard to get for a while, and see what happens, because 1) I'm pretty sure you've tried this route before and it didn't work; and 2) chances are, if it *did* work, it would just fall back into the same routine later on of little to no sex.
I'm sure you've already considered her stress level, her tiredness, and had countless conversations about it...(rolls eyes remembering her own conversations)--so I'm not going to tell you to consider her stress level, etc...
All I can honestly tell you? Is that you're not the only one whose been rejected by their spouse sexually before..and it's a tough thing to deal with especially when you have the opportunity to get it elsewhere (as do I, if that was a route I wished to take)..
I hope whatever decision you make in the end is the right one for your situation and how you feel.
So I'm not going to tell you to "try this, or that" because I'm sure you've tried everything you can think of to get her in the mood or seduce her.
I'm not going to tell you not to think it's you, because of course you are going to think that---how could you not? No matter what she says in terms of "I'm tired" or "It has nothing to do with how desirable I find you"..you are still going to feel as though you simply don't turn her on.
I'm not going to tell you to play hard to get for a while, and see what happens, because 1) I'm pretty sure you've tried this route before and it didn't work; and 2) chances are, if it *did* work, it would just fall back into the same routine later on of little to no sex.
I'm sure you've already considered her stress level, her tiredness, and had countless conversations about it...(rolls eyes remembering her own conversations)--so I'm not going to tell you to consider her stress level, etc...
All I can honestly tell you? Is that you're not the only one whose been rejected by their spouse sexually before..and it's a tough thing to deal with especially when you have the opportunity to get it elsewhere (as do I, if that was a route I wished to take)..
I hope whatever decision you make in the end is the right one for your situation and how you feel.
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